Telling very obese family member not to sit on furniture (male, wife)
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My first time on this forum. I can't believe this thread went to 15 pages of replies in two days.
This was years ago: One of my acquaintances, a ladyfriend of a friend of mine, came over with him to visit me at my apartment. She was of the heavyset variety of woman but that didn't really mean anything to us. Heavy, thin, it's all good.
She sat down on a chair in the living room and it and she immediately crashed to the floor, totally destroying that chair (I'm thinking that's not something you see every day). She laughed, we laughed, she slowly managed to get up off from the wreckage and chose another one to sit in. We all mentally crossed our fingers but that one held. Whew!
Last edited by rushhournewb; 12-02-2016 at 04:24 PM..
I have a 270 pound friend who knows full well he is not to sit on some of my furniture which includes my pneumatic height adjustable stools at the bar (I have a separate one for him) and never on my glider or my spring back Martha Stewart porch chairs. He's not to use my toilet for no. 2 either. Too gross.
I have a 270 pound friend who knows full well he is not to sit on some of my furniture which includes my pneumatic height adjustable stools at the bar (I have a separate one for him) and never on my glider or my spring back Martha Stewart porch chairs. He's not to use my toilet for no. 2 either. Too gross.
WOW! How did THAT conversation even start about the #2? Did you just come out and tell him he could pee in your toilet, but forget about crapping in it? I can't even imagine telling someone they couldn't go to the bathroom in my home, no matter what size they were. It's hard enough telling someone about a chair, but this goes a little too far as far as I'm concerned, and to be so specific what he is able to do and not do in your bathroom.
I'm guessing you provide an outhouse for him to use?
I have a 270 pound friend who knows full well he is not to sit on some of my furniture which includes my pneumatic height adjustable stools at the bar (I have a separate one for him) and never on my glider or my spring back Martha Stewart porch chairs. He's not to use my toilet for no. 2 either. Too gross.
How do tell someone politely they're not allowed to poo in your toilet? I'm just curious in case I ever run into that situation....
and how do you know for sure he doesn't sneak a little poo in there when you aren't paying attention?
How does a 600 lb person make it anywhere!? and if this obese relative of yours has sat on your furniture in the past without it breaking, then why tell them not to sit on it now?
I have a 270 pound friend who knows full well he is not to sit on some of my furniture which includes my pneumatic height adjustable stools at the bar (I have a separate one for him) and never on my glider or my spring back Martha Stewart porch chairs. He's not to use my toilet for no. 2 either. Too gross.
I would think 270lbs would be nowhere close to the weight capacity of any toilet. Was it installed properly?
what is offensive? Should I just not ask or tiptoe around it? This is a weight related thread. There have been tons of more offensive statements in the past x pages.
I don't think it was that any part of the statement was offensive, it was just that you finished the sentence with, "no offense". Might as well have left that off.
Here in the South, the joke is you can get away with saying anything you want as long as you start or finish the statement with "bless your heart"
you could hardly walk and breathe but you carried it well? What does "carry it well" mean? Even if you look 100lbs slimmer, you still look like 300lbs, no offense ...
Congrats on the 200 lbs. that is amazing, wow. How different does it feel? How do you keep it off and how come you had 400lbs at some time? Did all your health issues go away or will some stay forever? I heard the surgery is extremely tough on the body, is that true?
Carried it well as in it was spread out evenly over my body. Yes, I was fat. I looked fat. I felt fat. But the way it was distributed made it easier to hide under clothing, so I didn't look as big as I actually was. See post #141 by cheapdad00 - he explained it very well.
Thanks for the congrats! I definitely feel like a new person. I'll address the rest of your questions in a DM since it's a bit long.
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Originally Posted by seain dublin
Agree, if you can barely walk and breathe heavily no one is noticing how well you carry your weight. They're afraid you're going to keel over.
As it is, nobody really even paid me any attention at all. Obese people are a dime a dozen these days - why would anyone care about one more?
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Originally Posted by cheapdad00
I don't think it was that any part of the statement was offensive, it was just that you finished the sentence with, "no offense". Might as well have left that off.
Here in the South, the joke is you can get away with saying anything you want as long as you start or finish the statement with "bless your heart"
I wasn't offended by what was said, but I do think that almost any statement or comment automatically seems offensive when someone adds that little "no offense."
Hah! I love the comment about "bless your heart." It's certainly accurate!
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How did THAT conversation even start about the #2? Did you just come out and tell him he could pee in your toilet, but forget about crapping in it? I can't even imagine telling someone they couldn't go to the bathroom in my home, no matter what size they were. It's hard enough telling someone about a chair, but this goes a little too far as far as I'm concerned, and to be so specific what he is able to do and not do in your bathroom. 
