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Don't you have regular bowls you could have offered for their broth based soup? As the hostess, YOU should have offered a real bowl.
I don't eat seafood, so no clam chowder. Tomato is "ok", but not a meal. I don't eat bread. Edamame is not a meal - more like a snack. I don't care for it. Is that all you served? Did you have a green salad or something else?
I would have either eaten beforehand or after I left your place, because there would not have been much there I could have eaten either.
Also, how clean is your kitchen?
Ouch, you don't sound like a very pleasant dinner guest.
Clam chowder. Aren't clams a protein? And I believe cream is also. Don't most people include protein of some kind with a meal? I think vegans eat beans for protein, and maybe rice is a protein also.
The point was that a lot of people don't eat clam chowder, and the other soup option provides no/very little protein.
Has anyone ever invited family over dinner and they brought their own food? They weren't asked in advance either.
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Originally Posted by CMMom
I haven't read all the pages, but this is how this SHOULD have gone:
Hostess: We'd love to have you all to dinner. I'm planning on serving x, y, and z.
Guest: That sounds great. What can I bring?
Hostess: If you could bring dessert (or a salad or side dish or whatever), that would be great.
Problem solved.
Alternatively,
Hostess: We'd love to have you all to dinner. I'm planning on serving x, y, and z.
Guest: That sounds wonderful. Thanks for thinking of us. We would love to come, but there's one issue. I am allergic to X/on a special diet/whatever the issue may be. I'd be happy to bring my own entrée so that you don't have to change plans based on me.
Hostess: That sounds great. Thanks for being upfront. I'll make a note of your restriction for the next time we get together.
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Originally Posted by pll
This did happen.
I'm having trouble following this. In the original post, you said the guests "weren't asked in advance either." I assume you meant they weren't asked to bring anything when offered the invitation (not that they weren't invited in advance---that you called them up spur of the moment and said to come right over).
But in reply to CMMom's great suggestions, you said "this did happen." Are you saying you said it would be a soup in a bread bowl? As I said in an earlier post, it's just too much of a coincidence that the guests brought soup without knowing that it was soup night (most people would just bring wine or dessert). So when they asked what they could bring, what did you assign them? Did you ask for dessert and they brought soup instead?
It sounds like you had a nice dinner planned for your guests and that's more than so many people do these days (cooking for themselves, much less cooking for guests). But if there is no wiggle room for the menu to be supplemented by something a guest feels like contributing, then the niceness of the meal is diminished by the rigid expectations that you had for perfection. Hopefully you are a good actress and the guests didn't pick up on your displeasure.
I LOVE clam chowder in bread bowls!! Wish I was there at your party!
I find clam chowder to be an odd choice for a dinner, unless you know everybody eats clams...I wouldn't have even wanted to WATCH people eat clam chowder let alone eat it myself.. The other choice was tomato, which to me is just a side for grilled cheese (there's nothing in it).
]I'm curious why the OP was ok with the couple bringing apple pie and ice cream, but furious that they brought soup[/b]. If you asked them to bring dessert, or when they asked what they could bring you responded "dessert," then I could see why they wouldn't think twice about also bringing soup. I would see it as we're all contributing to the meal.
If you asked them not to bring anything, I still don't understand why you were ok with the apple pie. It does make it seem like you are more upset that your husband ate more of their soup than yours.
It appears OP was upset because her husband chose their soup over hers. I do understand, she was proud of herself and wanted her husband to be as well, however I do think from many of the posts that OP didn't really like this person even before the dinner. I really don't think she meant any harm in bringing the soup.
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. The other choice was tomato, which to me is just a side for grilled cheese (there's nothing in it).