Dinner Party Where Guests Show Up With Their Own Food (wife, husband)
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IDK. Bringing the same item (soup) as the OP was serving sounds like a competition to me. She could have brought a cheese tray or other side dish if she wasn't trying to upstage the hostess. If she wanted to bring soup, she should have called the OP And asked about it.
I agree with you completely. I spoke with a family member regarding this situation who felt this particulate relative is known to be very competitive.
She asked in advance to bring something and we suggested dessert would be fine.
Oh, did I mention that she wanted to bring her two dogs as well? Thankfully, she texted us before arriving and we said no. Last time she did and her dog urinated on our carpet...twice.
Oh, did I mention that she wanted to bring her two dogs as well? Thankfully, she texted us before arriving and we said no. Last time she did and her dog urinated on our carpet...twice.
I agree with you completely. I spoke with a family member regarding this situation who felt this particulate relative is known to be very competitive.
She asked in advance to bring something and we suggested dessert would be fine.
Oh, did I mention that she wanted to bring her two dogs as well? Thankfully, she texted us before arriving and we said no. Last time she did and her dog urinated on our carpet...twice.
If that's the case, that she was assigned and agreed to bring dessert, then that's unacceptable on her part to bring soup. Not so much because a choice of three soups is a bad thing---but because you were counting on her bringing dessert and then she arrived empty-handed (in terms of the promised dessert). So what did you do for dessert?
And the dog thing is crazy. When she goes to a doctor's office, does she bring the two dogs? When she goes shopping? To the movies? They can't be left alone for a couple of hours?
If that's the case, that she was assigned and agreed to bring dessert, then that's unacceptable on her part to bring soup. Not so much because a choice of three soups is a bad thing---but because you were counting on her bringing dessert and then she arrived empty-handed (in terms of the promised dessert). So what did you do for dessert?
When I was growing up it was considered polite to share among family members. Not so much friend-dinners, but certainly for family dinners, while it wasn't actually REQUIRED, it was considered nice to bring something. Rolls, or a dessert, or ... dare I say it ... soup.
There is nothing inherently "insulting" about it. You are only determined to see it that way. And your husband did the polite thing by sharing in the dish that was brought.
Zip your lip and suck it up. There's not a thing wrong except your attitude. You are far too inflexible if you have to have things "just so" and can't tolerate the generosity of others. Sometimes generosity isn't about giving a THING, but generosity of SPIRIT.
It is generosity of spirit that is lacking in your post.
Last edited by Pyewackette; 01-10-2017 at 04:06 PM..
Yep. This definitely has more to do with the OP's general dislike for this person than their dinner contribution.
I think it's both. Someone who brings two dogs and lets them pee in the house and also tries to upstage the hostess' cooking is a real jerk. If I were the OP, that jerk would never set foot (or paw) in my house again.
The cream based soups traditionally do better in sourdough bread bowls which are very popular in the city where I live.
Chicken broth/water based soups get absorbed by the bread and all that's left is soggy bread and the ingredients of the soup are just laying at the bottom of the (w/o liquid) bread bowl. I offered a soup (glass) bowl but she preferred a bread bowl.
I agree with you that it is more about the people which is why I was shocked that she had to bring her own meal and didn't come with the same intention of enjoying a family gathering.
What indicates that she "didn't come with the same intention of enjoying a family gathering?" That seems to be a product of someone's wild imagination.
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