Long time friends goes silent on us. What's going on?

[NDak15]

Originally Posted by staywarm2

Guess it happens a lot.

I think it does happen a lot.

[CMMom]

JMHO, but I think you should go. I recently reconnected with a college friend who came into town for work. I've only seen her like twice in the past 15 years or so. We're friends on social media, but haven't had "real" conversations in years. After 3 hours with her, I understand. She's been going through hell with a nasty divorce, estrangement from her parents and siblings, and now her teenage daughter turning against her and failing out of school. I had no idea any of this was going on and felt awful for not being a better correspondent over the years. Reconnecting felt great and it was as if no time had really passed.

[BijouBaby]

Originally Posted by NDak15

It's weird how some people just get flaky for no reason. That being said, I wouldn't decline the invitation.

People don't get "flaky" for no reason. There's always a reason. You may never know what the reason is, or you may disagree with it, but there is always a reason (in their mind anyway).

Many people really can't do confrontation at all, or respond to confrontation. Sometimes you just have to let it be and move on. Cest la vie.

[seain dublin]

Originally Posted by 926MPV

Texting and email have been around for 18 years at the most. So three phone calls in 17 years. You remind me of my inlaws who have driven away all of their friends and most of their family by being so self centered.

That's what it sounds like to me as well. The OP scoffed at the idea of actually picking up the phone as if it was a burden to do so.

The long emails and the quick asking about them are a big clue.

The thing is people like this never get it, like your in-laws, everyone vanishes and they never even think "could it be us", of course not.....LOL.