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We have been friends with another couple for 35 years. We both moved out of our city at the same time, to different cities, about 5 years ago. We went to visit them in their new house several times and they expressed interest in coming to see us but never have even though we know<snip> that they have visited close by and it would have been easy to drop in to see us. But in the last year or so they have stopped answering email. I have sent a couple of long ones, full of news about us, asking about them and got no answer.
A mutual friend of ours planned a short trip to a cabin she rented and invited us and the other couple. But I am feeling really awkward about the whole thing. I have the distinct impression that our long time "friends" are not really that much of friends anymore. So we are probably going to decline the invitation.
It is pretty strange for us; we are not aware of any reason they would decide to dump us or ignore us. No disputes, we have similar politics and interests. It is just a mystery to us. Kind of depressing actually to find out that things are not always what you think they are.
What do others think? Am I over-reacting?
Last edited by Miss Blue; 02-03-2017 at 05:49 AM..
Reason: deleted reference to FB see sticky post
Maybe, maybe not. One way to find out is to accept the invitation. If the other couple then declines, you have your answer, as well as a nice weekend away. But, if they come, you might just rekindle the friendship you miss.
I have given up trying to figure out friendships that go astray.
I have always tried to do the right thing and be fair and helpful.
Sometimes, that is not enough, and after years of friendship parameters change, as do expectations.
Do what you can to keep friendships alive----at times your best is not good enough----it probably is not your fault.
These things are strange and hard to figure. I have found that people sometimes get weird in their old age. In the few cases I am thinking of, this has taken the form of extreme rudeness. Since I am not willing to be a punching bag, I terminated one long-time friendship and backed off considerably from another one.
Many times on these threads people think they are friends when the others think they are acquaintances.
They came to our house for Thanksgiving dinner every year for perhaps 20 years. We went to many dinner parties at their house. I would say we were more than acquaintances.
People move away, their lives change and sometimes lose touch. It is what it is..
I say - overreacting.
An email went unanswered so now you want to decline an invite to what sounds like a perfect opportunity to spend time with old friends and enjoy catching up...? smh. So petty.
* Ffr though, most people really hate those kind of long winded emails..lol
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