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These horrible jerks are the same ones who helped you with a place to live and financially when you were injured?
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I would attend his wedding for sure. Then if you feel like skipping the reception, do. This is how we handled it when my husband was asked to be best man at his brothers wedding. They've never been close so it was just a ruse to avoid his brother having to choose between one of his close riding buddies. We only hear from this brother when he needs money.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 02-04-2018 at 08:32 PM..
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Suck it up, and just go, and make the best of it. It is your brother's day, and even if you have to pretend to have a good time do it. Work things out with your brother, and his friends down the road.
Moderator cut: deleteGo to the wedding for sure, but let your brother know that you won't be involved in the wedding party as best man. That you feel some things are going on that make you uncomfortable. Let him pick those other "brothers" he considers also brothers to stand in your place. He'll get over it.
No matter what, again, I would attend his wedding for sure. Then if you feel like attending the reception, do. If not, no problem. Blessings to you.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 02-04-2018 at 08:35 PM..
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Opting out of being best man seems to be the best option, and then because a best man is often responsible for setting up the very outmoded silly unneeded bachelor party, you will no longer be responsible for organizing it and need not worry about it.
Plus you'll be more comfortable just attending the wedding rather than being best man in the wedding party.
Opting out of being best man seems to be the best option, and then because a best man is often responsible for setting up the very outmoded silly unneeded bachelor party, you will no longer be responsible for organizing it and need not worry about it.
Plus you'll be more comfortable just attending the wedding rather than being best man in the wedding party.
Why? His brother asked him. He wants him there. I think it would be pretty selfish to quit now.
You are supposed to be there for HIM not be the cause of jealous or frustrated anguish over his friends. There is a very special camaraderie between firefighters/military but your brother asked YOU to be his best man, BE IT. Recruit one or two of his buddies to help you,be part of the team.
Talk to your brother. Be honest about your feelings. Tell him how hurt you felt when you were not included in the 'wedding party' sporting event. It is possible that your brother was never even told that you weren't invited or he may have thought that it was just his fire fighter buddies and him going to a game and not something connected to his wedding. I have never heard of wedding events like that taking place six months before a wedding. That is crazy. is he the first guy in his group getting married?
Also, tell him your plans for a local bachelor party. He may not even realize that his buddies are pressuring you to plan something that you can't afford and can't attend.
Talk to him and listen to what he says. He asked you to be best man for a reason. Good luck.
talk to your brother. be honest about your feelings. Tell him how hurt you felt when you were not included in the 'wedding party' sporting event. It is possible that your brother was never even told that you weren't invited or he may have thought that it was just his fire fighter buddies and him going to a game and not something connected to his wedding. I have never heard of wedding events like that taking place six months before a wedding. That is crazy. Is he the first guy in his group getting married?
Also, tell him your plans for a local bachelor party. He may not even realize that his buddies are pressuring you to plan something that you can't afford and can't attend.
Talk to him and listen to what he says. He asked you to be best man for a reason. Good luck.
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Also I didn't realize people even had bachelor parties anymore
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