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That's just your own, one, perspective. Lots of young people are in college to form relationships, make friends, join social activities, fraternities, etc.
That's true as well, but when one of those friend stab you in the back with the least you expected, I hope you will realize the meaning of a friendship.
It seems like you outgrow people relatively fast. The only thing I can suggest is find things you have in common with in the people you meet and go from there.
Based on previous threads you've started, I'm pretty sure I know where you are at school.
Do a search for "student organizations + [your school name]" – there are 539 listed. They range from academic/social, groups relating to your major (nursing, as I recall), entertainment, performing, religious, cultural, special interests, service groups, etc. Pick a couple and look at their contact information. Look for announcements in the school paper, and start trying to get involved. There are lots of ways to get involved with fellow students in serving the larger community. This is how you meet people that share interests outside of a particular class. You're in the midst of an area that has lots of needs – get involved to help others and you help yourself at the same time.
I know you've previously expressed some issues with social anxiety. That makes it harder to put yourself out there, but it's what you must do to start to develop some friendships. Push yourself beyond your comfort level to walk into a group. Getting involved in a service group should give you an opportunity to develop a friend while you are doing something for kids or elderly or [fill in the description] of people who need assistance.
Ultimately, you don't need 10 or 20 friends: One or two "running buddies" will make life more enjoyable for you. Once you make yourself join in, it should be easier each time.
You can't form deeper, long-term friendships if you don't start somewhere. Start now. Good luck.
I’m in my third year of college, and I have not maintained a single friendship since I’ve started. I’ll meet people in a given semester, and we exchange numbers to study together, help each other out with homework, and talk about classroom material. However, after the semester ends I often don't have classes with them anymore, and the relationship ends because we no longer have anything to talk about. People say college is supposed to be the best four years of your life, and while I'm not having a terrible experience I do get lonely at times.
Even my friends from high school. I only keep in contact with one person from high school. However, I'm always the one reaching out to her or contacting her first. She never initiates contact with me. What could be a reason or reasons why my friendships don't last long and people never initiate contact with me?
"People" are lying. College can be enjoyable and rewarding, but the best years of your life are the ones when you are independent and making a living and raising a family. At least, that's how it is for me.
And while I've never been hugely popular, I have more friends now (at age 51) than I ever did in college.
I'd say you need some counseling in how to be a friend. Friends show interest in more than a mutual class. They ask about friends, family, interests, and share the same. They make friendly jokes. They do favors for one another. They find mutual interests and do them together. The counseling service at your schoolmates be able to match you up with a social skills coach. And yes, joining clubs is where you'll find those who share your interests.
People say college is supposed to be the best four years of your life, and while I'm not having a terrible experience I do get lonely at times.
"People say". HA! If I had a dime for every time these all knowing, anonymous "people" turned out to be right, I'd be independently wealthy. People also used to say the earth was flat. Usually they are merely repeating something they heard. That's called rumor....or gossip.
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