How come my friendships don't last? (person, college, workplace)
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I’m in my third year of college, and I have not maintained a single friendship since I’ve started. I’ll meet people in a given semester, and we exchange numbers to study together, help each other out with homework, and talk about classroom material. However, after the semester ends I often don't have classes with them anymore, and the relationship ends because we no longer have anything to talk about. People say college is supposed to be the best four years of your life, and while I'm not having a terrible experience I do get lonely at times.
Even my friends from high school. I only keep in contact with one person from high school. However, I'm always the one reaching out to her or contacting her first. She never initiates contact with me. What could be a reason or reasons why my friendships don't last long and people never initiate contact with me?
Surely you have more in common with your study partners than just class--movies, music, sports, hobbies. What campus organizations are you involved in?
Surely you have more in common with your study partners than just class--movies, music, sports, hobbies. What campus organizations are you involved in?
Yeah, I can make more of an effort to get to know them as people. I'm not involved in any clubs or campus organizations.
Yeah, I can make more of an effort to get to know them as people. I'm not involved in any clubs or campus organizations.
That's how you do it--friendships don't just happen out of nowhere. You talk to your study group, people are talking about Black Panther, you make plans to go see it.
Do you live on campus? You'll never be as surrounded by young people in the same stage of life as you are right now. Don't waste the opportunity by sitting by yourself in your room with your nose in your computer/phone all the time.
That's how you do it--friendships don't just happen out of nowhere. You talk to your study group, people are talking about Black Panther, you make plans to go see it.
Do you live on campus? You'll never be as surrounded by young people in the same stage of life as you are right now. Don't waste the opportunity by sitting by yourself in your room with your nose in your computer/phone all the time.
I lived on campus my first two years, but now I don't. I commute now. However, the school that I attend is a commuter school. Most of the students commute.
You must get involved in activities that aren't a semester in length. Activities that you can do and participate in that aren't dependant upon a school cycle.
Study partners are by nature short-lived partnerships that tend to last as long as the class lasts. Not always, there are friendships that can evolve past that, but friendships are based on more than 2 people who share the same class.
It's time to develop some hobbies and it's through hobbies and interests outside of class that you'll be able to meet people and develop friends to do things with and that can be the start of long friendships.
Even my friends from high school. I only keep in contact with one person from high school. However, I'm always the one reaching out to her or contacting her first. She never initiates contact with me.
I'd drift away from her, then. She is not invested in a friendship.
I would join a study group, book club, volunteer organization, political group or some other type of activity and meet new people.
I’m in my third year of college, and I have not maintained a single friendship since I’ve started. I’ll meet people in a given semester, and we exchange numbers to study together, help each other out with homework, and talk about classroom material. However, after the semester ends I often don't have classes with them anymore, and the relationship ends because we no longer have anything to talk about. People say college is supposed to be the best four years of your life, and while I'm not having a terrible experience I do get lonely at times.
Even my friends from high school. I only keep in contact with one person from high school. However, I'm always the one reaching out to her or contacting her first. She never initiates contact with me. What could be a reason or reasons why my friendships don't last long and people never initiate contact with me?
There's a difference in relationships that form through circumstance and necessity (discussing topics you happen to share through class work, other school realities, and eventually, the workplace) and relationships that form because you share common interests or passions. Those tend to be more personal and important over time.
I’m in my third year of college, and I have not maintained a single friendship since I’ve started. I’ll meet people in a given semester, and we exchange numbers to study together, help each other out with homework, and talk about classroom material. However, after the semester ends I often don't have classes with them anymore, and the relationship ends because we no longer have anything to talk about. People say college is supposed to be the best four years of your life, and while I'm not having a terrible experience I do get lonely at times.
Even my friends from high school. I only keep in contact with one person from high school. However, I'm always the one reaching out to her or contacting her first. She never initiates contact with me. What could be a reason or reasons why my friendships don't last long and people never initiate contact with me?
Get used to it, because it won't get any better once you get to the 'real world'.
Just keep yourself busy with various things and don't worry about it.
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