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Legally in our country I'm responsible for my mother and father, if they finish with nothing and needing help. Luckily my stepfather is very well financially. It is also the reason my brother don't want to work and keeps asking for money. My stepfather gives my mother money every month. She gives everything to my brother.
Legally in our country I'm responsible for my mother and father, if they finish with nothing and needing help. Luckily my stepfather is very well financially. It is also the reason my brother don't want to work and keeps asking for money. My stepfather gives my mother money every month. She gives everything to my brother.
Thanks for the clarification.
Well, I just hope your mom ends up able to take care of herself. I don't see what you can do but then I don't really know the laws of your country.
Is your dad your brother's dad as well? Is your brother still stealing from him?
My brother is my "dad's" son. But the truth is our stepfather is my real father, only I'm registered as a daughter of my brother's dad . So he is my half brother. It is complicated. My mother was pregnant with me and married to my brother's dad. After 20 years she divorced and went back with my real father. I consider both of them my fathers.
He is not stealing from his father anymore because there's nothing left to take.
OK so really what I'm concerned most about is legal responsibility and ramifications. So which father figure would you be legally responsible for supporting in the future? And which father figure would your brother be legally responsible for supporting in the future?
I'm legally responsible for the father who registered me. My brother's father.
My brother can also be legally responsible for him, as his son, but this ins't happening because he don't work and is incapable of taking care of himself and his family. So it is definitely me who is taking care of his father.
Even knowing his father had no money to get trough the month he didn't spent a cent with him. I don't think he is very concerned that he is old and is likely to need help in the future.
OK so I'm trying to keep this straight. Your FATHER and not your STEPFATHER is who you are responsible for legally in the future, right? Are either of you responsible for your stepfather legally?
So your brother isn't stealing from your dad (the man who registered you), right? I mean, he has but he's not now?
And you think your mom will be OK financially in the future, even if your stepfather passes before she does?
We're not responsible legally for our stepfather(my biological father).
My brother stole 10.000 dollars from our dad 4 months ago and is not stealing now.
I think my stepfather will give her something in case he passes first. I fear only that she will also give this to my brother and finishes with nothing. If I have to take care of both my mother and father, I will be in trouble. Me and my husband have a modest living, and I don't think we'll be able to take care and pay for everything for both of them. So this concerns me.
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cristina, I really can't tell who you are responsible for. Your use of "our stepfather" when in fact, the man is only stepfather to either you or your brother, and you refer to your stepfather as "dad".
Can you call them Jim and Bob? With "Jim" being your biological father, and "Bob" being your brother's biological father?
Yes, I understand this can be very confusing and I'm sorry for that.
My mother lives now with my biological father, who I call "stepfather".
I was raised by my brother's father as his daughter. I only knew the truth when I was 13. So I'm registered as his daughter and I call him my father.
My brother also calls my biological father 'our stepfather". We can call them Jim and Bob.
Cristina, it sounds like you've painted yourself into a corner (that is, you've put yourself in a situation which has no exit).
Every time someone suggests an option, you state that option won't work.
So, there you are.
Rich
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