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Make a donation in their names to a charity you know they would support.
This!^^^
Or a nice winter/holiday arraignment for the table(s)?from the florist?
Or some flower bulbs for her garden if they have one: right now you can order bulbs which will be shipped to her in spring, they will flower in the summer- you even could help her plant them.
(When giving it you could just cut out a pretty photo of the bulbs in bloom- in a small frame)
They come back usually- depending on the climate hardiness zone.
You can gift her fall planting bulbs and plant them in spring, but they won’t flower this year.
DM me for you specific climate suggestions if you go with this idea
Or a nice winter/holiday arraignment for the table(s)?from the florist?
Or some flower bulbs for her garden if they have one: right now you can order bulbs which will be shipped to her in spring, they will flower in the summer- you even could help her plant them.
(When giving it you could just cut out a pretty photo of the bulbs in bloom- in a small frame)
They come back usually- depending on the climate hardiness zone.
You can gift her fall planting bulbs and plant them in spring, but they won’t flower this year.
DM me for you specific climate suggestions if you go with this idea
Plants are a great idea. If I spend too much on anything, it is plants for my garden. A gift certificate for a nursery would be very appreciated. If someone can’t Garden, then who wouldn’t enjoy a nice live plant or fresh flowers?
What to buy for the person who has everything? (husband, sister)
Nothing.
Without being near to rich, I do have everything I need or want. A person's goodwill and friendship is a gift that matters, the do-dads are just junk to be put on a closet shelf or given to a charity shop.
This idea that you have to give people a thing, an object, to show your love and appreciation is baffling.
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Originally Posted by jencam
For most it's common courtesy. I may have to settle for treating her at the restaurant. She doesn't need me to, it's the principle.
Where is the "common courtesy" of loading someone "who has everything" with more "stuff."
So "settle" is the name for treating someone to your company when that person already, according to the scenario, has stuff, stuff, stuff enough? You make it sound as if honoring the relationship with some personal company at lunch is second rate when compared to buying token items they seemingly don't need and probably don't want.
Why would such a person want a do-dad like a "friendship box" (or whatever) when they could have an hour or so of personal friendship time at lunch? Someone has suggested a donation to a charity, and this has the really significant plus of spending any cash in a beneficial way.
I broke down and asked please tell me something you'd enjoy! She said I have everything. Just don't.
She did say I could treat her at the restaurant Monday. We're going to see the lights and then eat and have a cocktail or two. On ME!
Why don't you take her at her word that she doesn't want a gift, and treat her to lunch as planned? At this point you buying her something is more about you than about making your friend happy.
I am in a group of 5 friends who get together every year at Christmas and exchange small gifts. A few years ago, my friend gave us all a potted/rooted cutting from her Christmas cactus. This is an easy plant to keep and mine has gotten bigger every year. Last year it started blooming and it is blooming again as I type this. This year, we all got a potted/rooted cutting from her jade plant with a decorative Christmas pick in the pot to make it festive. I think of her whenever I look at these plants and enjoy them very much. It is personal and inexpensive. A great gift, I think!
I am a vegan. My daughter sent me a box of vegan brownies from Uncommon Goods. They are made by an "open hiring" company in New York. This means they hire people with no resume, no interview and no background check. Basically, they give people a first chance or a second chance or a third...... to get on their feet when others might not hire them. The brownies were great, too! It was a nice and meaningful gift.
Why don't you take her at her word that she doesn't want a gift, and treat her to lunch as planned? At this point you buying her something is more about you than about making your friend happy.
I didn't catch that and agree. If she said don't buy anything then I would do the planned lunch.
I didn't catch that and agree. If she said don't buy anything then I would do the planned lunch.
Once when I was in a similar situation, I had a server snap a pic of me with my friend. I printed the picture and sent it to her in a card saying how much I enjoyed our lunch.
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