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In my case, I just left. There was a coworker who had been with the company 23 years and it seemed like management thought she could do no wrong. But I worked in a work queue remotely with her and watched her blatantly hoard the easiest work for herself, which management didn't know because they didn't watch the work queues. She also would wait in the work queue until people with way less experience had taken the hard accounts and then she'd jump in and get the next ones in line that were easy. Then she had the nerve to accuse coworkers of doing exactly what she was doing, but I never saw anyone do anything to the extent she did. In meetings she always sucked up to the managers and was sickeningly sweet. I thought about talking to management about it, but she had been there so many years and obviously they thought she was a model employee and I realized telling on her would just make me look bad. I always hoped that someone with more seniority than me would report her. I don't know if they ever did. She didn't do anything specifically to me except sending me an email one day telling me how to do my job as if she were my supervisor, which I basically ignored.
It just got to where I dreaded logging on every day and watching her cherry pick. So I quit. I made up an excuse about wanting to spend more time with family; didn't tell on her. I'll let karma get her. I was offered a job at another company for more money.
I commend you for putting up with that man for apparently decades. You must’ve really liked it there and it must’ve been a great company.
When you mentioned toward the end of your career, I was stunned you put up with him all those years.
Thank you. I didn't have to put up with him for my whole career as he got moved to the morning shift for several years. Then the other crew complained so much that he got sent back to nights. I groaned when I heard the news. But by that time he'd seen the handwriting on the wall and had stopped the power games. He'd also come out of the closet and found happiness with a partner, so that also made a difference.
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Thanks for that share, it made me smile. I just have to say...you handled that with class and integrity. Class act you are!
You will find these people in all workplaces unfortunately. You shouldn't worry too much about them. They often are dealing with personal matters that have nothing to do with you or the workplace. Good managers know how to deal with these things, and they probably understand the situation better than you do. Sometimes they will even "befriend" the toxic workers and spend more time with them in an effort to help the situation.
I had a coworker in a brand new department who was toxic. She was rude right from my first day. It soon became clear she was an insecure, unhappy, resentful woman. We were about the same age. I didn't know it at the time, but I was brought in at a higher band level, which made her furious and created her initial resentment towards me. She was secretive, would hoard any project that our little department identified, and our director was a bad manager who didn't know how to manage much of anything, so she ran circles around him and made sure I got assigned the crap work.
I didn't know what to do about the situation and had no idea what the problem was, so I just tried to ignore her bad behavior. Within a couple months there was a reorganization and she and I were moved to another, group. We were supposed to work together but that never happened. The hostility only seemed to grow in the subsequent weeks. She hated her job, hated the company, hated the management, hated me, was miserable.
Finally she found another job in a different company and left, 6 months after I started. She made sure I was not invited to any going-away lunch or event held for her (not that I would have attended anyway).
Update: It's going to be "dealt with" per the HR person coming into my office and telling me. She was very sincere about it. I'm excited!
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I never have either, so I agree. It may go nowhere, but I've been directly told it is being dealt with and there was a meeting about it. I won't know until Monday.
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Update: Its supposedly being dealt with today. We will see...
My stomach actually dropped when I read the first response. I was in the exact same position once, with the exact same sense of hope after talking to HR. Everyone in my office, from my boss to my supervisor to my coworkers all agreed that the other person was horrible to me and had violated Respectful Workplace guidelines.
Then HR "dealt with" the situation by deciding that I was the trouble maker for the organization for bringing attention to the conflict, and I was forced out.
My stomach actually dropped when I read the first response. I was in the exact same position once, with the exact same sense of hope after talking to HR. Everyone in my office, from my boss to my supervisor to my coworkers all agreed that the other person was horrible to me and had violated Respectful Workplace guidelines.
Then HR "dealt with" the situation by deciding that I was the trouble maker for the organization for bringing attention to the conflict, and I was forced out.
I hope your outcome was/is better.
Exactly! HR and/or management don't want specific problems voiced out loud and pinpointed. They prefer everyone to pretend that everything is fine. And if it's not fine, then have a "team building" session, that will solve everything.
OP, what is the verdict? Did it get taken care of?
Yes, I was told so, but today is my first day back since they addressed it.
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My stomach actually dropped when I read the first response. I was in the exact same position once, with the exact same sense of hope after talking to HR. Everyone in my office, from my boss to my supervisor to my coworkers all agreed that the other person was horrible to me and had violated Respectful Workplace guidelines.
Then HR "dealt with" the situation by deciding that I was the trouble maker for the organization for bringing attention to the conflict, and I was forced out.
I hope your outcome was/is better.
I hope so too, but nothing would surprise me with this company. Time will tell I guess.
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I thought about talking to management about it, but she had been there so many years and obviously they thought she was a model employee and I realized telling on her would just make me look bad. I always hoped that someone with more seniority than me would report her. I don't know if they ever did. She didn't do anything specifically to me except sending me an email one day telling me how to do my job as if she were my supervisor, which I basically ignored.
