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As we live next door to the airport why is it everyone coming back to town calls on us to pick them up and take them home?. at the moment i'm waiting for a flight from the west coast scheduled at midnight and my wife has volunteered to pick some one up and drive them home, rude is a mild descriptor to the way i feel,heck are the taxis on strike? this is one of my wifes friends so if i come out and say what i feel i'll end up in the dog house ..
When you say "take them home," are you referring to your home (where they left their car) or to their home?
Until BOTH of you learn how to say no, it's going to continue, and you have no one to blame but yourself. People can only take advantage of you if you let them.
Well the several phone calls have me awake at midnight so my wifes moochy friend can get a free taxi ride home in our car ,i feel my wife is being taken advantage of.
Is your wife allowed to have feelings of her own? Or is that your job too?
Well the several phone calls have me awake at midnight so my wifes moochy friend can get a free taxi ride home in our car ,i feel my wife is being taken advantage of.
How is she being taken advantage of when she volunteered?
As we live next door to the airport why is it everyone coming back to town calls on us to pick them up and take them home?. at the moment i'm waiting for a flight from the west coast scheduled at midnight and my wife has volunteered to pick some one up and drive them home, rude is a mild descriptor to the way i feel,heck are the taxis on strike? this is one of my wifes friends so if i come out and say what i feel i'll end up in the dog house ..
As we live next door to the airport why is it everyone coming back to town calls on us to pick them up and take them home?. at the moment i'm waiting for a flight from the west coast scheduled at midnight and my wife has volunteered to pick some one up and drive them home, rude is a mild descriptor to the way i feel,heck are the taxis on strike? this is one of my wifes friends so if i come out and say what i feel i'll end up in the dog house ..
Your wife volunteered, so the only rude one is you.
Next time someone asks you, you say NO. NO is a complete sentence.
Well the several phone calls have me awake at midnight so my wifes moochy friend can get a free taxi ride home in our car ,i feel my wife is being taken advantage of.
Jambo, you haven't really made it clear. Which one of you is your wife volunteering to be the one to do the driving - you or your wife?
If your wife is the one volunteering to pick up her friends and drive them home herself then just ignore it. Don't be grinchy about free taxi rides in the family car. If it's what she wants to do then let her do what she wants with her friends and you can hang out alone at home and go to bed when you feel like it. Don't try to keep her tied to you at home just because you don't want her helping her friends.
If your wife is volunteering YOU as the driver then she should NOT be doing that and you can tell her you are feeling too old and sick and tired to do it and she will have to drive them herself. She already knows you aren't very well these days so she's in no position to argue or volunteer your services to her friends.
If your wife is really being taken advantage of because friends are asking her to drive them home and she doesn't know how to say no, then she already has a good excuse for not driving people around. She can tell them that you are not very well and she doesn't feel comfortable leaving you alone so she wants to stay home to look after you. Her friends cannot argue with that, and if they do argue then she will know they are not really her good friends who care about her own well-being, they are opportunists.
I always volunteered to pick up friends from the airport when I lived in Hawaii (I lived about a 10-15 minute drive from HNL), and a few took advantage of. Some far too frequently for my liking, but I did it as I knew that I could call on them to do the same when I was flying back home, even though I actually requested such of friends far less frequently.
The problem I had largely is that they generally didn't even offer to put in for gas most of the time. They'd largely offer to buy me lunch, but we all know how that turns out most of the time (people forget and move on).
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