What would you do if you caught your teen having sex (children, boyfriend)

[skeet09]

Originally Posted by paganmama80

it depends on the girl not the parents though. There are many girls which super strict parents who are the most godawful wild children around.

Of course.

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by ajzjmsmom

Since there are rules in our house for our kids and one of those rules is very clearly stated as "no sex in the house" then if one of my kids had gotten caught having sex, there would be no more boyfriend/girlfriend over while parents aren't home, no doors shut, and when I went to bed the kid would go home. I would not be okay if I caught my child having sex in my house. It would be completely disrespectful to my husband myself and they all know this. So if they chose to break the rules then there would be consequences.

What if you caught them having sex on the roof? Seems like that is a little loophole there

[ajzjmsmom]

Originally Posted by paganmama80

What if you caught them having sex on the roof? Seems like that is a little loophole there

There is no loophole plain and simple, my kids understand the rules of our house, their father and I have always respected them and they show that same respect to us.

[$hayT93]

Originally Posted by suemandy23

I shouldn't have to break it down into crayons, geez. Any one with a brain should be able to distinguish what I would talk about with her. I think that simple sentence speaks volumes.

"I would talk to her about the responsibilities that come along with promiscuity."

I shouldn't have to get technical and list every little thing that would be talked about. I shouldn't have to S-P-E-L-L out every little thing, because a very select few can't seem to grasp what was meant by what was said, or because someone makes close minded assumptions.

But then I guess, you're always gonna have those few who sniff around all these posts like they are litte red fire hydrants. Here's a thought... Have some common courtesy for the rest of us: and

Remember your pooper scooper.

I love the irony, you're talking about assumptions, but yet you would jump to conclusions and assume the boy you used in your response was promiscuous. If you just added the 3 measely words "of his promiscuity" there wouldn't have to be anyassumptions would there? I think you're forgetting that both people involved could be promiscuous, not just the guy. Are you one of those people who says things and expects people to read your mind and catch on? For example: "Get me that thing from that place in that room".

Here's a thought for you, have the courtesy to be more polite in responses. I have common courtesy for everyone, apparently you don't, since you're the one making the sarcastic remarks. And

Remember your pronouns and adjectives, it makes things much easier

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by suemandy23

Hello? She would pay for HIS being promiscuous.

That's NOT what you said. You said:

"If I found out the boy has had other partners, I would have my daughter tested for STDs and AIDs, that way she understands the responsibility that goes along with being promiscuous."

You said you she would understand the responsibility.

Originally Posted by suemandy23

Duh!

Can you engage in intelligent discourse without resorting to insults? I can.

Originally Posted by suemandy23

Doesn't that mean I would talk to her about HOW his being promiscuous would affect her???

I can see this being an issue but it's not what you wrote.

Originally Posted by suemandy23

Anyone with a brain can see that she would pay the price by catching something from him. You still don't seem to get it.

I do get it. But that's just not what you wrote. You wrote about the responsibility that goes along with being promiscuous but she wasn't promiscuous. What you need to talk to her about is the need to find out if her partners are promiscuous. She can't assume his responsibility but she can arm herself with the information she needs to be safe.

Originally Posted by suemandy23

All you've done is make very limited assumptions as to what would be discussed regarding the situation.

I made NO assumptions. I took what you wrote at face value.

Originally Posted by suemandy23

And Yes, you did take it out of context. You took a very small piece of the pie, and spat out some tarty remark over some idiotic assumptions you thought up.

I chose to respond to one of your points as opposed to all of them. That's not taking anything out of context.

I may truly be idiotic. And then again, I may not. But I didn't assume anything. I responded to what you wrote.

Originally Posted by suemandy23

And dont play the victim and say I am being mean to you. Take what you dish out. I'm sure you will think up an icy little comeback from way up their on your all knwing pedestal... Rolling my eyes all the way around at that...

I'm not playing the victim. I know that I am able to respond to you without being nasty or accusing you of being stupid. Can you say the same?

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by Kreutz

By me a few teenage girls(14, 15 or so) have been arrested and charged with sending child pornography after sending nude pics of themselves.

Not sure if any have served jail time or had been sentenced yet, but the newspaper article mentioned they will have to register as sex offenders(since its a felony) afterwards if found guilty.

That has happened here as well but I don't think it relates well to this discussion. Two minors having sex is not against the law in most states.

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by ajzjmsmom

There is no loophole plain and simple, my kids understand the rules of our house, their father and I have always respected them and they show that same respect to us.

Okay what if it's on the public sidewalk with a foot on the grass?

[suemandy23]

Originally Posted by Momma_bear

That's NOT what you said. You said:

"If I found out the boy has had other partners, I would have my daughter tested for STDs and AIDs, that way she understands the responsibility that goes along with being promiscuous."

You said you she would understand the responsibility.



Can you engage in intelligent discourse without resorting to insults? I can.



I can see this being an issue but it's not what you wrote.



I do get it. But that's just not what you wrote. You wrote about the responsibility that goes along with being promiscuous but she wasn't promiscuous. What you need to talk to her about is the need to find out if her partners are promiscuous. She can't assume his responsibility but she can arm herself with the information she needs to be safe.


I made NO assumptions. I took what you wrote at face value.



I chose to respond to one of your points as opposed to all of them. That's not taking anything out of context.

I may truly be idiotic. And then again, I may not. But I didn't assume anything. I responded to what you wrote.




I'm not playing the victim. I know that I am able to respond to you without being nasty or accusing you of being stupid. Can you say the same?

oh go hibernate in your den and get rid of that manged-out, rabid snideness you're trying to pass off as superiority while you're at it...

[plaidmom]

Originally Posted by paganmama80

For some reason parents a lot of the time seem to forget what it was like being kids.

I was the 16 year old girl. I DO still remember, ~20 years later.

My father, bless his heart, was pretty calm. He closed the door and said "Bob (not his real name) put your pants on....".

Of course they tried to keep us apart. And of course, like Romeo and Juliet, that only made things worse.

Luckily we soon fell "out of love" , as teens are apt to do, and no harm was done.

FFW to my own daughter. I became an advocate for early and accessible birth contol. I also was receptive to and understanding of her burgeoning sexuality. It's weird, to me, that, as sexual creatures, we tend to deny the sexuality of our own progeny. Those we have brought forth through....well SEX!

[suemandy23]

Originally Posted by $hayT93

I love the irony, you're talking about assumptions, but yet you would jump to conclusions and assume the boy you used in your response was promiscuous. If you just added the 3 measely words "of his promiscuity" there wouldn't have to be anyassumptions would there? I think you're forgetting that both people involved could be promiscuous, not just the guy. Are you one of those people who says things and expects people to read your mind and catch on? For example: "Get me that thing from that place in that room".

Here's a thought for you, have the courtesy to be more polite in responses. I have common courtesy for everyone, apparently you don't, since you're the one making the sarcastic remarks. And

Remember your pronouns and adjectives, it makes things much easier

you left a load again, try to remember that pooper scooper next time, seriously, and while you're at it, go buy yourself some crayons...