An Observation on the Concept of Family

[somebodynew]

Originally Posted by imcurious

Let's just say you don't get it . . .it's not a conscious thing . . .when you have young children, you are in charge of them and you can control them. It's just a fact - not a "should" or "shouldn't be."

It's a default position.

This simply is not true. While I am responsible for *raising* them, I definitely don't, actively seek NOT, to control them.

[somebodynew]

Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life

THIS is why so many families have drama when kids get married and a daughter- or son-in-law enters the picture.

Immature Mamas and Daddies who can't believe they aren't the boss anymore won't move over and let their kids grow up and be the bosses of their own lives.

Go back and read the Kahlil Gibran poem you posted earlier. That's kind of what this is about.

Amen to this post.

[Dave5150]

Originally Posted by imcurious

Let's just say you don't get it . . .it's not a conscious thing . . .when you have young children, you are in charge of them and you can control them. It's just a fact - not a "should" or "shouldn't be."

It's a default position.

Of course being in charge and in control is a default position when you have little ones. I am the one who makes all the decisions for my son. I dont know how old you are or what age your children are, but I think from what i read and my limited experience that as your children grow you as a responsible parent pull back the reins a little bit at a time until it is just natural that they move on. I dont think anyone has any illusion that one day they are your little people and the next they are their own people. Although i def see how it might feel that way. I mean, im pretty sure i just gave birth yesterday. If your children are leaving the nest, or close to it, start rededicating your efforts to yourself so that them being on their own in their own family isnt so shocking.

[Pitt Chick]

Originally Posted by reebo

As it should be.

Definitely.