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I dont know, if it was a junior or a third....maybe, but this kid will be the sixth? Thats a very long line, and alot of tradition and history you are altering. At this point, that name is an heirloom, and it has much more importance than the name itself.
You can look at is this way, at least Henry Louis is a normal name, that will never get the kid joked in school, leave a teacher or employer unable to pronounce it, or get his resume tossed in the trash can.
I think it may come up to talking to a counselor about it with him. In all other matters, we have been able to discuss and compromise, consider, and reach a solution which meets both of our needs. We've been together for seven years, and though the conversation of what we'd name a baby has come up before, this is the first time he has been quite adamant about the boy's names. His desire to call our baby Henry Louis may be a carryover from childhood, one which holds a lot of meaning to my husband, and I respect and recognize the name's importance to him.
I want to reach a compromise which satisfies us both. Calling the child by a nickname not at all related to the baby's name seems disorienting, I'm not sure how I feel about that. I'd prefer a middle name which I could use, at least, but he wants Henry Louis VI. The natural nicknames from Henry and Louis are not appealing to me: Harry, Lou, Hank, Hal, Louie.
For the record? Henry Louis ____ VI makes me cringe. No, I don't think I could live with it
The minute your husband carries a pregnancy for 10 months then squeezes a watermelon out of his butt, he gets to choose.
There was a tradition where I grew up that the father chose the girl baby's name, the mother chose the son's. The naming continuity is actually very American. It is rare for people not to select a new, fresh name in Australia. There ARE no juniors, seniors, IV's etc. My ex only shared the first name of his father and grandfather, the middle names were unique.
IMHO, this family tradition is long established (about 100 years to get to the 6th right?) and obviously important to your husband. Have you considered agreeing to call the child your first choice of a nickname, while legally naming him Henry Louis VI?
My name was the fifth generation on both sides of the family, so no arguments. But I was never called by it, but by a nickname. It is simply my name on legal documents.
The minute your husband carries a pregnancy for 10 months then squeezes a watermelon out of his butt, he gets to choose.
There was a tradition where I grew up that the father chose the girl baby's name, the mother chose the son's. The naming continuity is actually very American. It is rare for people not to select a new, fresh name in Australia. There ARE no juniors, seniors, IV's etc. My ex only shared the first name of his father and grandfather, the middle names were unique.
this is stupid. It takes 2 to make a baby, and it is just as much his as hers. Tradition is very important to some people. I don't see why this mom not liking the name is a good reason to put the kibosh on 100+ years of family tradition.
There was a similar thread a while back with a much worse (more old fashioned) name than this one. IIRC most posters said to go with tradition and come up with a good nickname.
No offense, but your husband sounds a bit selfish. I don't understand the reason some families choose to carry on a name for so long. For what? Kind of takes the fun out of naming YOUR child.
In all schools now kids are only called by the legal first name. My Angel is Lorenza at school. So your son will always be Henry at school. And maybe to his friends as well.
The minute your husband carries a pregnancy for 10 months then squeezes a watermelon out of his butt, he gets to choose.
There was a tradition where I grew up that the father chose the girl baby's name, the mother chose the son's. The naming continuity is actually very American. It is rare for people not to select a new, fresh name in Australia. There ARE no juniors, seniors, IV's etc. My ex only shared the first name of his father and grandfather, the middle names were unique.
I agree, if you don't like the name tell him no and move on.
Do you really want to be the one that ends a 6 generation family tradition?
Traditions are made to eventually end. Somewhere along the line some mother is not going to agree to keep naming the child after the father again and again.
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