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The wife actually just said to me after I posted this, that maybe we should wait it out a little longer till were not on the fence so much.
I feel like I question myself so much about this, that saying Im not going to have kids is just as hard as saying I want to have kids. very split on the decision. I think we will both make great parents so that is not a concern, we just both currently are very happy with our lives and our marriage as is and throwing a kid into the mix would greatly disrupt that.
1. Funny things that they say and do!
2. When young, running to the door when you get home from work, to give you hugs and kisses because they missed you so much.
3. watching them grow from infants, babies, toddlers, then school age to high schoolers to young adults!
4. laying in bed and reading stories while they snuggle with you.
5. watching them grow up and make mistakes and learn from them and make lifetime decisions.
6. watching their excitement at Christmas, Easter, birthdays etc. Priceless!
7. watching the relationships they form
8. celebrating all of their accomplishments and being so proud of them!
9. watching them be more like you or your spouse and knowing where it came from!
10. When they are all gone and you can get thank yous for things you said and did!
Good stuff, thanks guys.
The wife actually just said to me after I posted this, that maybe we should wait it out a little longer till were not on the fence so much.
I feel like I question myself so much about this, that saying Im not going to have kids is just as hard as saying I want to have kids. very split on the decision. I think we will both make great parents so that is not a concern, we just both currently are very happy with our lives and our marriage as is and throwing a kid into the mix would greatly disrupt that.
Smart lady! Don't let anyone pressure you gyus to have kids or even come to a decision about it one way or the other until you are ready.
Really, if you are going on the internet and asking strangers for 10 positive reasons to have kids... you are not ready for kids.
Thanks would it be better to ask biased family and friends who will just try go convice me to have kids? Posts like yours are actually helpful. thats why i asked the internet
edit, you seem to be happy that your kids have moved out and your kid free again, judging by your location..
Thanks would it be better to ask biased family and friends who will just try go convice me to have kids? Posts like yours are actually helpful. thats why i asked the internet
You prefaced your thread by instructing us to not tell you that you're not ready/don't really want kids.
There's really only one positive reason you should have kids -- because you and wife want them. There is nothing wrong with not having them if that's what you decide and if friends and family begin pushing you to have them, kindly tell them to shut the hell up, although I would substiture hell with another four letter word just to drive the point home a little more succintly. Too many people have kids that never should have kids... see also some of the other threads posted here lately.
^^^This times 1,000. You don't have to have children if you don't want to have them. Since you feel the need to talk yourself into having children, you should probably stick with pets. Having children because you feel you have to is ridiculous and harmful to you, your wife, and the kids.
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