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I guess I was naive thinking kissing the teachers's butt wouldn't start until kids were older, bc dear lord there's 2 in my DD's class who suck up non-stop. This is a pre-school age dance class. I personally find the teacher to be sort of abrasive. Or maybe it's her voice that I sound really irritating. But DD likes her so hey. She doesn't say hi to anyone when she walks in either and just looks straight ahead, but she' college age, so I'll give her a pass lol. But 2 moms (nice ladies too), but literally every week yell out "Omg, hi Miss so-so" like to 2 high school girls at the lunch table. Then they'll sit there and VERY loudly voice how "Omg, she's gorgeous." They give combined gifts and cards to her for evey holiday created, Halloween, Valentine's day, etc. They even hang around after the class fretting, is that a word, telling the teacher how their DD just lovesss the teacher, or what the she did today was soo great and amazing. I was also put on the spot by one of them to contribute a pretty large amount of money for an end of the year gift. I really had no intention of giving a gift in all honesty. I mean, for a classroom teacher yes, but for an acitivity like this, maybe a card or something small. She asked me 2x in front of all the other moms too, and then wrote down the names in a little book. So let me guess, if I didn't give any money, my name wouldn't have been in the card. I wouldn't be surprised if she's FB friends with the teacher too. So, just curious, does this butt kissing happen with the parents your around too? Is little sussie going to be in the front row and my kid in the second bc I'm not doting on the teacher when she opens up the door lol.
If it did, I never noticed, because I never stuck around to watch.
In years of multiple kids and multiple activities I have never seen anything even close to what you describe. I'm always a bit surprised at the parents who know the name of the coach/teacher.
How could you not know the name of your kids coach/teacher? Especially if it's an acitivty they've been on for years? Not in my case, it's her first year.
I stay for swim meets, yes, but I am always focused on what my kid is doing in the pool and my role as timer, runner, heating organizer, or whatever. And once the meet is over, we break down and leave. I do not stick around to see who is chatting up the coach.
When my kids were in elementary school, I worked in the library as a volunteer, which kept me busy, so I wasn't aware of "kissing up" there either. I never attended PTO meetings, class parties, or field trips. Oh, wait, I once escorted eighth graders to the science museum, but I had a job to do there, too, and there was no time for sucking up.
I do know the names of my kids' coaches and teachers, but I'm not there to be their friend or to curry favor. I find a job, or I plant my butt in the bleachers and watch my kid.
I stay for swim meets, yes, but I am always focused on what my kid is doing in the pool and my role as timer, runner, heating organizer, or whatever. And once the meet is over, we break down and leave. I do not stick around to see who is chatting up the coach.
When my kids were in elementary school, I worked in the library as a volunteer, which kept me busy, so I wasn't aware of "kissing up" there either. I never attended PTO meetings, class parties, or field trips. Oh, wait, I once escorted eighth graders to the science museum, but I had a job to do there, too, and there was no time for sucking up.
I do know the names of my kids' coaches and teachers, but I'm not there to be their friend or to curry favor. I find a job, or I plant my butt in the bleachers and watch my kid.
Great...you are involved (though then I am not sure why you say you don't stick around)...and quite a bit really....but I bet if you watch more closely ...there is some degree of this going on.
Some areas are worse than others (the NE seems to be very bad about it)....but I find it very hard to believe that there has never been a parent try to suck up to a teacher, instructor or coach.
Great...you are involved (though then I am not sure why you say you don't stick around)...and quite a bit really....but I bet if you watch more closely ...there is some degree of this going on.
Some areas are worse than others (the NE seems to be very bad about it)....but I find it very hard to believe that there has never been a parent try to suck up to a teacher, instructor or coach.
I don't stick around after the activity ends to see instances of "kissing up," and I keep myself focused on whatever my job may be while the activity is on-going. My kids are older, so there isn't much need for me to stick around other than during summer league when parents are needed to make the organization run. For middle school and high school events, my role is to stay in the bleachers and behave. I take that role very seriously.
I don't stick around after the activity ends to see instances of "kissing up," and I keep myself focused on whatever my job may be while the activity is on-going. My kids are older, so there isn't much need for me to stick around other than during summer league when parents are needed to make the organization run. For middle school and high school events, my role is to stay in the bleachers and behave. I take that role very seriously.
That doesn't mean it's not going on...you just were oblivious.
I've seen plenty of it. I ignore it when I can. Some people are just that way.
I think the suck up mom that bothered me the most was the one that was sucking up to me. Our daughters were in the four year old class together. She asked for my email. I was thinking playdate. Um. No. Her husband is a financial adviser. She thought he could help us with investments. I was a money making opportunity for her.
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there's 2 in my DD's class who suck up non-stop. This is a pre-school age dance class. I personally find the teacher to be sort of abrasive. Or maybe it's her voice that I sound really irritating. But DD likes her so hey. She doesn't say hi to anyone when she walks in either and just looks straight ahead, but she' college age, so I'll give her a pass lol. But 2 moms (nice ladies too), but literally every week yell out "Omg, hi Miss so-so" like to 2 high school girls at the lunch table. Then they'll sit there and VERY loudly voice how "Omg, she's gorgeous." They give combined gifts and cards to her for evey holiday created, Halloween, Valentine's day, etc. They even hang around after the class fretting, is that a word, telling the teacher how their DD just lovesss the teacher, or what the she did today was soo great and amazing. I was also put on the spot by one of them to contribute a pretty large amount of money for an end of the year gift. I really had no intention of giving a gift in all honesty. I mean, for a classroom teacher yes, but for an acitivity like this, maybe a card or something small. She asked me 2x in front of all the other moms too, and then wrote down the names in a little book. So let me guess, if I didn't give any money, my name wouldn't have been in the card. I wouldn't be surprised if she's FB friends with the teacher too. So, just curious, does this butt kissing happen with the parents your around too? Is little sussie going to be in the front row and my kid in the second bc I'm not doting on the teacher when she opens up the door lol.
