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Discuss it with your husband. Require that the door be open when anyone else is in their bedroom.
That isn't going to matter in the big picture, mom and dad aren't always going to be home. These kids live together they are going to have all kinds of opportunities for sex if that's what they choose to do.
They're not biologically related, and are old enough. Even if stuff is going on, I don't really see the problem. If they are doing it then the most important thing is to find out if they're doing it safely.
Sit them down and have THE TALK with them. Be sure they understand that actions have consequences, and if she gets pregnant, the only honorable thing for him to do is marry her.
Maybe that will make them be careful, maybe not. Whether you enforce it is up to you if it happens.
Good luck.
Maybe Mom and Dad could have a PRIVATE talk with each child, Dad with the Boy, and Mom with the girl regarding sex, STDs, unwanted pregnancies, the emotional link with Sex, etc., while NEVER mentioning the thought the step siblings are engaging in any sexual activity.
Removing doors does NOTHING but destroy any trust, and thoughts of privacy.
I see your point but whenever parents choose to have kids, aren't they also signing those kids up for a massive obligation that they never agreed to called life?
Am I the only one here that doesn't care one way or the other if the OP's step-kids are having sex?
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Originally Posted by Razza94
No, I don't see the problem so long as they're using protection. That being, they're not my kids and perhaps I see these things differently to OP.
No, no. I really don't care whether or not they're having sex, whether or not they're using protection, etc. That's their problem, not mine. As someone already stated, it's not my circus, it's not my monkeys, it's none of my business, even if I did care. That others have made this nonsense their business while the OP has not had the courtesy to respond since their first posting suggests to me that people are gullible enough to be roped into anything, whether it be true or not.
Talk to your husband and your kids. I think an open honest relationship is the way to go here. If you can get more evidence in the meantime that would help. Hide a nanny cam in their rooms?
I was a very strict parent , but your suggestion of .........hiding a nanny cam in their room..........crosses the line.
Lay down the law that neither of them are to be in bedrooms alone with the door closed but do not cross that privacy line by installing a nanny cam.
Am I the only one here that doesn't care one way or the other if the OP's step-kids are having sex?
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Originally Posted by David A Stone
I was a very strict parent , but your suggestion of .........hiding a nanny cam in their room..........crosses the line.
Lay down the law that neither of them are to be in bedrooms alone with the door closed but do not cross that privacy line by installing a nanny cam.
That one kind of threw me. And then what??? DO you REALLY want to sit down and watch a video of your son and stepdaughter having sex???? That's just weird.
Keep the doors open. Why can't you talk to the kids? You are the PARENT! ACT LIKE IT!
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