Wife wants to buy plane ticket for her parents (child support, stepfather, pregnant)
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I am embarrassed to read how cheap the OP is. An MS in EE with a good job and cannot fork out $3K for the in-laws to visit - mind you, they will be helping out at home with the child care! SMH
OP's wife is in a more dire strait than most military moms do.
She is an immigrant. And it looks like she doesn't have any family support other than OP's mom. If OP does not manage the situation well, she may develop Postpartum Depression.
OP said that his colleague or friend faces the same scenario and can handle it well. But most likely the wife of his friend and colleague has family network support but his wife doesn't.
I am embarrassed to read how cheap the OP is. An MS in EE with a good job and cannot fork out $3K for the in-laws to visit - mind you, they will be helping out at home with the child care! SMH
The puzzle is in why they paid their own way out to visit for the first baby, but not for the second. OP, have they expressed any interest at all in seeing the baby? Is the second-born chopped liver, or something? Or was the first one a boy, and this one's a girl?
Why not? Unless they are low income, why shouldn't they pay for their own tickets?
If the OP's parent-in-law are coming to help take care of the toddler and soon-to-be born baby, why should they pay for the airfare?
Though OP said he is a Korean, he is born in US and thinks in American way. His wife and his parent-in-law think in the other way.
In most East Asian societies, it would be extremely rude to ask the parent-in-law to pay for their travel expenses if they come to help the couple even if they can afford it.
The only way for OP to save money is to make up some excuses to just invite the mother-in-law come since father-in-law may not be able to offer much help.
I wonder how the Koreans prevent nosocomial infections during a 4 week stay. It would be awful if a mother or newborn contracted an illness while in the hospital.
The puzzle is in why they paid their own way out to visit for the first baby, but not for the second. OP, have they expressed any interest at all in seeing the baby? Is the second-born chopped liver, or something? Or was the first one a boy, and this one's a girl?
There is a subtle difference between the first and the second trips. During the first born, the wife did not need much help and could manage the baby herself.
But for this trip, obviously the purpose is to help the couple out since his wife alone cannot manage a baby and a toddler.
The puzzle is in why they paid their own way out to visit for the first baby, but not for the second. OP, have they expressed any interest at all in seeing the baby? Is the second-born chopped liver, or something? Or was the first one a boy, and this one's a girl?
The OP only recently got this travel job this year. Presumably the first time, he was assisting with childcare during the early newborn phase and there was only the one newborn. This time, he will be away from Monday to Thursday and there will be a newborn and one other child.
OP's in-laws are willing to take off from their own jobs and spend a month in a foreign country, helping take care of his child, presumably without pay. It seems to me that springing for their plane tickets would be a gesture of gratitude for what will surely be a tiring month for them.
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