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"You're right ... but my point is, does a 17 year old really need to be told he has to share?"
Many of them, yes they do! At this age they can be pretty self-absorbed and thoughtless. Don't overthink it and take it so personally, he's not thinking "I don't care if she doesn't get any", it's just a simple, "I'm hungry, that turkey was good, think I'll have some more!" Just remind him you all want to be able to have some. And it may take quite a few reminders for it to sink in.
Even if he has a job, I think making a 17yo go back and buy more turkey with his own money seems kind of mean spirited. It's not like it was ice cream or cookies, turkey is hardly a treat food. Does his other parent pay child support that would presumably cover at least part of his share of food?
We don't need his mom's money ... she doesn't have any anyway, but that's not the point.
Well he works next door to the grocery store also. Otherwise I gotta drive 20 mins there so it make sense foe him to get it. I'll pay him back, IDC. The $$ isn't the issue. You gotta share.
We don't need his mom's money ... she doesn't have any anyway, but that's not the point.
Well he works next door to the grocery store also. Otherwise I gotta drive 20 mins there so it make sense foe him to get it. I'll pay him back, IDC. The $$ isn't the issue. You gotta share.
You sound a little stressed. Maybe the three of you could work something out where your stepson or your husband stops at the grocery store once a week to pick up anything you all are low on, and that would lessen the pressure of you having to get everything with one big shopping once a week. IDK why all the shopping is on you when you work 7 days a week.
I know I always forget something at the store and have to go back more often than I’d like.
Also I don’t think you really can “parent†him at this point.
ok good to know. At what age do they start to get common sense?
Serious question ... Im sorry. Ive never parented before
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You sound a little stressed. Maybe the three of you could work something out where your stepson or your husband stops at the grocery store once a week to pick up anything you all are low on, and that would lessen the pressure of you having to get everything with one big shopping once a week. IDK why all the shopping is on you when you work 7 days a week.
I know I always forget something at the store and have to go back more often than I’d like.
Also I don’t think you really can “parent†him at this point.
My husband works 7 days a week also. Difference is I work @ home so he isn't able to do it. I'm not really able to do it either but someone has to. Stepson doesn't drive yet. We live in a high COL area - we work 7 days a week by choice, we can afford to not to but we like the extra $$ - 5 days @ our main jobs and then weekends @ our side hustle ... which I suppose we could skip if we had to. It just has been that since the pandemic, I was moved to WFH so by default I am going.
Ya that could work. He doesn't drive yet so he can only grab so much but yeah that would be a good solution I guess.
I'm stressed yes b/c now I am not sure what i'll have for lunch and not sure if there's enough now ... I might have to send him or take another trip back.
Ok good to know. At what age do they start to get common sense?
Serious question ... im sorry. Ive never parented before
It's a learning thing. IF he's never had siblings, he may have never had to share before. Whoever parented him before you and your husband probably just knew what he liked, and groceries were bought accordingly. "Johnny likes turkey and poptarts and chicken nuggets. I will pick those up at the store".
That's kind of why I'm saying don't shame him about it. He likely never thought about it...cause that's how teenagers just are. Just let him know in a good natured way what you expect in the future.
My husband works 7 days a week also. Difference is I work @ home so he isn't able to do it. I'm not really able to do it either but someone has to. Stepson doesn't drive yet. We live in a high COL area - we work 7 days a week by choice, we can afford to not to but we like the extra $$ - 5 days @ our main jobs and then weekends @ our side hustle ... which I suppose we could skip if we had to. It just has been that since the pandemic, I was moved to WFH so by default I am going.
Ya that could work. He doesn't drive yet so he can only grab so much but yeah that would be a good solution I guess.
I'm stressed yes b/c now I am not sure what i'll have for lunch and not sure if there's enough now ... I might have to send him or take another trip back.
You know...also, some of the grocery stores have pick up service and/or delivery service. I just started using delivery (I get it free for a month) from Walmart. That would save you time.
It's a learning thing. IF he's never had siblings, he may have never had to share before. Whoever parented him before you and your husband probably just knew what he liked, and groceries were bought accordingly. "Johnny likes turkey and poptarts and chicken nuggets. I will pick those up at the store".
That's kind of why I'm saying don't shame him about it. He likely never thought about it...cause that's how teenagers just are. Just let him know in a good natured way what you expect in the future.
Thank you. I know it wasn't malicious or to like purposely do it to make me have none but it's still annoying when you have your week planned meal-wise and then that gets disrupted and you have to go back the store that isn't that close or improvise.
it's really not a big deal, I know that. I was just annoyed b/c I literally got the turkey yesterday PM and now it's gone.
Arrrgh. Thanks. He had siblings in his mom's house. Here he does not so maybe he thinks he can do things differently here. Still, instead of siblings, swap it out for parents. Still gotta share regardless.
You have been helpful. I appreciate it.
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