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Honestly?? You think I scarred him for years to come? Really? By telling him he needed to get into shape? He'll need anti-anxiety and anti-depressant meds? Require therapy for PTSD? Please refer back to my original "snowflake" comment.
I was listening to a local radio station play the song, Rockstar, by Nickleback. And they bleeped out the word "drug" in "drug dealer." I couldn't believe it. I guess they were afraid if all of the delicate little snowflakes out there even heard the word "drug," they'd immediately go out and become drug addicts.
We're becoming a country of marshmallows.
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you are out of touch if you think comments made by adults teachers and other kids do not stay with people for a lifetime. many women that suffer eating disorders remember the comments that started them on the path. many people remember for a life time when a bully bullied them, as you did this kid. just own it you did a low blow on a young child.
I mentioned this to my GF. She was aghast. She said I was being rude. I mentioned it to my boss, and she said I was being "mean." That some "old guy, stranger" wasn't the person to tell that to some kid in a barber shop.
Your GF is smart.
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So, was I really out of line?
Since you ask - Yeah, you kinda were.
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Are we really to the point where our precious little snowflakes shouldn't be "exposed" to a man who tells them they should get into shape?
Unsolicited advice - particularly unsolicited advice that addresses some sort of failing - is simply bad manners.
That being said, I have no doubt your intentions were kind enough. Stopping at "Now you look like a Marine - best of luck!" or something in that line would have conveyed the same message. We have all done it.
So, I'm in the barbershop yesterday, getting a haircut. This chubby kid walks in. He's maybe 13 or 14 years old. He's wearing athletic shorts and a t-shirt, both emblazoned with the local High School Marine Corps JRTOC program.
He gets in the chair across the room, by the cash register. My haircut is done, I walk over to cash register to pay. The kid is 3/4 of the way to high and tight. Big difference. A big pile of hair on the floor. As I pass by I said, "Now you're starting to look like a Marine."
I pay for the haircut, and as I turn to leave, I looked at him and said, "Now you need to get in shape." He looked at me blankly.
I mentioned this to my GF. She was aghast. She said I was being rude. I mentioned it to my boss, and she said I was being "mean." That some "old guy, stranger" wasn't the person to tell that to some kid in a barber shop. She suggested if the kid's mom had been there I could have gotten a punch in the eye.
So, was I really out of line? I'm career military. I see a pudgy kid in a barber shop, who seems interested in Marine Corps JROTC, and I told him he needs to get into shape. I wasn't mean about it. I was matter-of-fact about.
Are we really to the point where our precious little snowflakes shouldn't be "exposed" to a man who tells them they should get into shape?
You think the kids who stormed Normandy would have had an issue with some guy in a barbershop telling them they needed to get into shape?
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It was obnoxious & you know it. You're just trying to get some justification for it. Actually, I don't believe this story. Fabricated for your agenda.
[quote=Bill790;43854588]So, I'm in the barbershop yesterday, getting a haircut. This chubby kid walks in. He's maybe 13 or 14 years old. He's wearing athletic shorts and a t-shirt, both emblazoned with the local High School Marine Corps JRTOC program.
He gets in the chair across the room, by the cash register. My haircut is done, I walk over to cash register to pay. The kid is 3/4 of the way to high and tight. Big difference. A big pile of hair on the floor. As I pass by I said, "Now you're starting to look like a Marine."
I pay for the haircut, and as I turn to leave, I looked at him and said, "Now you need to get in shape." He looked at me blankly.
I mentioned this to my GF. She was aghast. She said I was being rude. I mentioned it to my boss, and she said I was being "mean." That some "old guy, stranger" wasn't the person to tell that to some kid in a barber shop. She suggested if the kid's mom had been there I could have gotten a punch in the eye.
So, was I really out of line? I'm career military. I see a pudgy kid in a barber shop, who seems interested in Marine Corps JROTC, and I told him he needs to get into shape. I wasn't mean about it. I was matter-of-fact about.
Are we really to the point where our precious little snowflakes shouldn't be "exposed" to a man who tells them they should get into shape?
You think the kids who stormed Normandy would have had an issue with some guy in a barbershop telling them they needed to get into shape?
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I can give you the opposite side of the coin. Daughter's childhood friend. His mother totally banned her children from eating candy at all, from Halloween to Easter included. He was an extremely skinny kid from a very young age.
When this boy got old enough to make his own pocket money from cutting grass, shoveling snow, he would walk to the store and spend all his money on candy. How was he going to hide his "stash" from his mother finding it? He asked me to keep it. Oh no, not going there. While I absolutely disagreed with his mother totally banning all candy, I was not about to go against her wishes and hide it for her son. I told him to either talk to his mother, or wait until he was 18 and could eat whatever he wanted to. I was not about to say anything to her. MYOB. Moderation is the key, not a total ban. "Forbidden Fruit" so to speak.
At 18 he wanted to join the Marines out of HS. They told him to come back when he gained about 20 lbs. Maybe he needed to eat candy, and whole a lot of Big Mac's besides. It took him two years to put on those 20 lbs. Yes, he did eventually join the Marines, and served in Iraq.
At 18 he wanted to join the Marines out of HS. They told him to come back when he gained about 20 lbs. Maybe he needed to eat candy, and whole a lot of Big Mac's besides. It took him two years to put on those 20 lbs. Yes, he did eventually join the Marines, and served in Iraq.
I sorely miss the days when I could put away as many Big Macs as I pleased. Good times indeed!
So, I'm in the barbershop yesterday, getting a haircut. This chubby kid walks in. He's maybe 13 or 14 years old. He's wearing athletic shorts and a t-shirt, both emblazoned with the local High School Marine Corps JRTOC program.
He gets in the chair across the room, by the cash register. My haircut is done, I walk over to cash register to pay. The kid is 3/4 of the way to high and tight. Big difference. A big pile of hair on the floor. As I pass by I said, "Now you're starting to look like a Marine."
I pay for the haircut, and as I turn to leave, I looked at him and said, "Now you need to get in shape." He looked at me blankly.
I mentioned this to my GF. She was aghast. She said I was being rude. I mentioned it to my boss, and she said I was being "mean." That some "old guy, stranger" wasn't the person to tell that to some kid in a barber shop. She suggested if the kid's mom had been there I could have gotten a punch in the eye.
So, was I really out of line? I'm career military. I see a pudgy kid in a barber shop, who seems interested in Marine Corps JROTC, and I told him he needs to get into shape. I wasn't mean about it. I was matter-of-fact about.
Are we really to the point where our precious little snowflakes shouldn't be "exposed" to a man who tells them they should get into shape?
You think the kids who stormed Normandy would have had an issue with some guy in a barbershop telling them they needed to get into shape?
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The only mistake you made was discussing this with anyone.
Would it have been okay had he said: "You can cut it in the Marines, but you'll have to stick to a strict exercise regimen to be in peak shape."
No, none of it was acceptable because he didn't know the kid and frankly the whole thing wasn't his business.
Why do people go around offering completely unsolicited advice to strangers and think that it's ok?
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