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I happen to be one of those 2nd Generation American born Indians who experiences racism and gets unfairly stereotyped on a daily basis in the Dallas area, due to all the disgusting FOB Indians who have taken over a large portion of the region (the ones who came straight from India). I reside in Richardson, TX and am hoping to relocate to an area where I don't have to live near those Indians. I want nothing to do with them. Also, I don't care for a lot of my relatives either.
Perhaps a more productive way is to educate your fellow Indian person who isn't acting in the way you think is acceptable. If you don't, you're still going to get stereotyped anyway as perpetual foreigners. Been there, done that.
We do that in the Chinese community (I'm 2nd generation, from a earlier generation), and it's pretty darned common to complain about the JOJ (just off the jet) or FOB types - been going on for a long time.
I've learned to work together productively - and my view of the matter is, we're all kind of in the same boat - why not take advantage of the strength in numbers?
Yeah, in my professional dealings, some South Asian clients can be really difficult - such as bargaining really hard on every little thing and lowballing. I've worked with this by being firm and being upfront that it's a no go. That said, I have many wonderful neighbors from that region and we get along well.
Now here are some things that I actually respect South Asians for, that particularly some folks from my community (East Asians) can take:
They don't take s*** from nobody. They'll fight back and be upfront if they're getting shortchanged. A good lesson for some mealy-mouthed Chinese or Japanese people who shy away from direct confrontation when it's needed but go into their passive aggressive mode. Heck, if you're not being treated right, speak up! Some folks need a swift kick in the you know what at times.
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It is darn funny that you act all high and mighty, but at the same darn time, posting something so utterly racist and stupid. Maybe check your own prejudice and stupidity first before educating others about how to act.
It is darn funny that you act all high and mighty, but at the same darn time, posting something so utterly racist and stupid. Maybe check your own prejudice and stupidity first before educating others about how to act.
I'm critiquing people in my own community. And it's based on my experiences. What's wrong with that?
You don't have a problem, it seems, for Indian Americans also calling out their own people for their faults. Double standards, eh?
But if there's one thing that's been achieved by the rantings on this thread - it looks like the old tired model minority meme of the polite Asian people who work hard, achieve, and keep quiet --- has taken a hit.
I'm critiquing people in my own community. What's wrong with that?
Seems ya'll are just cheering on some Indian Americans also calling out their own people for their faults. Double standards, eh?
But if there's one thing that's been achieved by the rantings on this thread - it looks like the old tired model minority meme of the polite Asian people who work hard, achieve, and keep quiet --- is gone.
people in your own community huh?
well, I think not, you don't speak for NOBODY in your community, just speak for yourself already. lol
A lot more than you can claim to represent. You aren't the arbiter on that. Tough noogies if you don't like what I have to say.
This is what you posted, no?
They don't take s*** from nobody. They'll fight back and be upfront if they're getting shortchanged. A good lesson for some mealy-mouthed Chinese or Japanese people who shy away from direct confrontation when it's needed but go into their passive aggressive mode.
This is the thing, I don't claim I represent anything. I only represent MYSELF.
It is darn funny that you act all high and mighty and condemn people who use Stereotype to judge others, but at the same time, creating and perpetuating stereotypes without admitting it.
lol
some people just like confrontations, some don't. it is not a good or bad thing, it is just their ways to handle conflicts. In my family, we have mostly white people, 1 or 2 Asians, and 1 black, we all have different personalities, that is all. we have different ways of handling things. The last thing I want to claim to represent is some huge community! lol I don't pretend everybody who shares my background all think and act like I do.
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My neighbor is an Indian-American who came to this country about 7 years ago. His family is filthy rich and the funniest thing is that he said the same thing you did here. He's super friendly and super nice though, I like him as a neighbor a lot.
This said, I dated a Chinese-American who is also a software engineer. He said Indians are very territorial and would like to dominate the tech world. Maybe not a "racist" thing, it is just their way to survive in this country, I guess.
We shouldn't allow them to come into the country to dominate an entire industry. We owe them nothing.
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Number one, I don't know and don't care what your gender is, and whatever it is, your comments are fair game. Love dishing it out but cry foul when you get some pushback.
I think you're overstating my level of offense by about 1,000,000%.
This is what you posted, no?
They don't take s*** from nobody. They'll fight back and be upfront if they're getting shortchanged. A good lesson for some mealy-mouthed Chinese or Japanese people who shy away from direct confrontation when it's needed but go into their passive aggressive mode.
This is the thing, I don't claim I represent anything. I only represent MYSELF.
It is darn funny that you act all high and mighty and condemn people who use Stereotype to judge others, but at the same time, creating and perpetuating stereotypes without admitting it.
lol
some people just like confrontations, some don't. it is not a good or bad thing, it is just their ways to handle conflicts. In my family, we have mostly white people, 1 or 2 Asians, and 1 black, we all have different personalities, that is all. we have different ways of handling things. The last thing I want to claim to represent is some huge community! lol I don't pretend everybody who shares my background all think and act like I do.
Again, I stand by my POV - that SOME (see the bolded) East Asians can be more assertive - in the workplace, socially, and in public life. If you have a problem with that, that's on you.
I think you're overstating my level of offense by about 1,000,000%.
Well, you did mention that you felt you were singled out for your gender. But thank you for the note.
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