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The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck discussed this in the 80s.
He discussed with the metaphor of roadmaps.
Many people look at their experiences through high school as their map for life, that's all that they think they can expect.
If you go to college, travel, have greater and self-fulfilling life experiences, you can expand your map.
Same personality as high school for me, heavens no.
For a lot of posters in the relationship folder, perhaps grammar school is more accurate.
The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck discussed this in the 80s.
He discussed with the metaphor of roadmaps.
Many people look at their experiences through high school as their map for life, that's all that they think they can expect.
If you go to college, travel, have greater and self-fulfilling life experiences, you can expand your map.
Same personality as high school for me, heavens no.
For a lot of posters in the relationship folder, perhaps grammar school is more accurate.
I'd say that I have the same personality - but it's grown and deepened over the years. I sort of look at it like I've been the same lake - I just had no idea where the bottom was. And I still don't! Life's a journey and we change all the time - all of our experiences leave traces on who we are. But I'm still the same goofball I was when I was a little kid! That will never change! And my mom said that she knew even when I was a little girl that I'd end up living far from home. So she wasn't surprised when I went to college far from home and when I ended up living even farther away after college.
I think I have a similiar personality as I had in high school, I only graduated in 2008, not too long ago
As far as self esteem is concerned, I feel a lot more confident about myself and have very different views about life than I did when I was in high school
I would say even earlier than that, this reminds me of a Baudelaire essay called "the psychology of toys". It's been a few years since I've read it. If I can bring it up on google i'll hyperlink it.
I think the only thing that could change your personality is a quite traumatic event. It all comes back down to environment and influence.
I have heard this statistic. The one that says 85% of your personality and self-esteem are determined by the time you finish high school. I see it in my friends. They are just grown-up versions of what I knew in high school or college. Their responses to things, situations and crises are as predictable as when they were 18. Went to my 20-year high school reunion. No changes, except that some were a little humbled by having life kick them in the a$$.
What's your thought? Do you have any examples or opinions on this?
if this were true, I would have killed myself and been dead by now....but I'm obviously not, so....
I believe it... I think a lot of my difficulties in my personal life stem from the rejection and horrible teasing I experienced in high school. You couldn't pay me to go to a high school reunion.
Same here, but that was so long ago that I'm pretty sure that I act quite differently even if my essential "me" is the same. If anyone thinks I do still act the same way as I did then I would probably just go shoot myself right then, lol.
No really though, the universe has a way of evening out life's errors--I was a high school drop-out b/c I just couldn't handle it and now I spend a full day teaching and tutoring in all the subjects, which means I had to go back and learn all the stuff I missed way back when, and I have to try to cajole kids with all the same emotional problems that I had. You just really can't get out of it. That reminds me--I need to go try to talk my dd into showing me how to balance chemical equations.
Oh, so the answer to the OP is no, in my case my personality and self-esteem were not locked in and life is still getting better. Maybe I'm lucky I wasn't one of the popular ones.
I have heard this statistic. The one that says 85% of your personality and self-esteem are determined by the time you finish high school. I see it in my friends. They are just grown-up versions of what I knew in high school or college. Their responses to things, situations and crises are as predictable as when they were 18. Went to my 20-year high school reunion. No changes, except that some were a little humbled by having life kick them in the a$$.
What's your thought? Do you have any examples or opinions on this?
Really self-esteem too? What about someone who had found success after high school and therefore had increased his self-esteem?
Personality is pretty much set by age 5 and locked in by age 12. Self esteem can wax and wane throughout your entire life.
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