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My kid is 11 and lives with his dad. I don't have to do a lot of work. What upsets me is being forced into motherhood and observation of how mothers are treated. How quality of your life sinks as soon as you have a kid. How opportunities and doors close. How I missed out on getting my PhD and travels... Etc.... I don't think it is worth it.
That is not the case for many people. I traveled all over and got a PhD and was basically unhappy until I finally got married and had a child. Now I can't really go anywhere, but I am still much happier than before. Of course, nothing was forced on me. If your son is already 11 and doesn't even live with you, then you need to stop using that as an excuse and move on with your life. Nothing is stopping you now.
Yeah, that is the WAY to do it. I wanted everything to be sort of natural, not forced and with the right man. You are lucky!
I do adore my kid, he is the coolest 11 y.o. out there. Not needy, he is already learning the work ethic. It is just the fact that men these days view women who had kids as they have less value and normally the mothers have to take most of the crap. Just the obervation itself make me hate the idea of giving life. Let alone giving is so unapreciated these days...
This is weird and makes no sense. Your perception is in your head, no one else's. I think you need some counseling or medication - see a professional.
My kid is 11 and lives with his dad. I don't have to do a lot of work. What upsets me is being forced into motherhood and observation of how mothers are treated. How quality of your life sinks as soon as you have a kid. How opportunities and doors close. How I missed out on getting my PhD and travels... Etc.... I don't think it is worth it.
It isn't your child's fault you did not get the PhD or Travel. My Son in law got his PhD and had two babies born during that time and one with a medical condition that involved major surgery to correct and he still got his PhD in the timeframe he was supposed to without delay.
So, do NOT BLAME a CHILD for YOUR CHOICES to not pursue what you wanted to, it is YOUR FAULT not theirs.
I'm sorry and don't mean to hurt your feeling, however, being a mother to me was the greatest gift...from birth right up until this very day. It is not always easy being a mother, but you learn pretty quick, that that child, that precious bundle of joy, comes first from the day he/she is born....but, honestly motherhood was a gift...and my son was such a joy to raise...? I just find it difficult relating to your feelings....what kind of abuse did you have to take raising a child?
I don't think it is normal to hate motherhood. Gosh, I hope the OP never states that to others who might pass that on to the child. Imagine hearing that your mother hated motherhood. I am guessing that the husband left the wife for whatever reason and took the son out of the house, good thing considering the mother's feelings about being a mother. Now, the mother is alone and filled with regrets about how she has ended up and now playing "what if" which really gets one nothing at all. Obviously, OP needs counseling to deal with the divorce and her personal feelings of inadequacy which is being blamed on a forced marriage and forced pregnancy. Seriously, what is hating motherhood if not hating being a mother?
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I am guessing that the husband left the wife for whatever reason and took the son out of the house, good thing considering the mother's feelings about being a mother. Now, the mother is alone and filled with regrets about how she has ended up and now playing "what if" which really gets one nothing at all. Obviously, OP needs counseling to deal with the divorce and her personal feelings of inadequacy which is being blamed on a forced marriage and forced pregnancy.
Seriously, what is hating motherhood if not hating being a mother?