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I wouldn't call it a scam, but troll. With that said, if anyone is interested in purchasing the Brooklyn bridge please pm me by 8pm for the deal of the century! Now back to our regular scheduled programming of "I have mommy issues".
I agree, that "troll" seems more accurate. One of the things that I do appreciate about even "troll" posts, is that there can still be valid, important issues brought up. BTW....still considering that bridge.
I agree, that "troll" seems more accurate. One of the things that I do appreciate about even "troll" posts, is that there can still be valid, important issues brought up. BTW....still considering that bridge.
....and babies? Uh huh....can't say no.
Sorry, not for sale to you, lady, or any other friend. We do often get people pulling our legs on this forum. The nature of the net I guess. And yes, babEH! She just threw up on me lol. Now she's sleeping and I smell bad.
Sorry, not for sale to you, lady, or any other friend. We do often get people pulling our legs on this forum. The nature of the net I guess. And yes, babEH! She just threw up on me lol. Now she's sleeping and I smell bad.
Hahaha.....OMG, memories! Oh that smell...... "Why thank you there little snookums...mummy hasn't smelled like baby vomit for at LEAST 15 min. I was feeling like there was soooomething missing....just couldn't put my FINGER on it and well, there it IS!"
Dear God, B....with 4 kids and a couple of grandkids, I bet I've smelled like baby barf for about 8 yrs, in total.
So basically you were a victim of human sex trafficking. Your marriage was illegal and you have left your son in the hands of a criminal to learn everything he can. Why have you not packed up and taken your son back to Ukraine?
PS, your English is very good...
No, marriage was legal. Because I am naturalized us citizen. It was an abusive marriage. Human trafficking? Not sure, because my family was involved.
Lil,
What is it that you really want?
Everyone makes mistakes, you are not the only one who has
made mistakes.
Learn from them, be smart and move on.
You say you really don't like being a mother, so stay out of your
childs life then and move on with your life. It's only fair to the child to do
this.
If you want to be your child's mother, then find a way to file for custody.
You have no support over here. Your family is in Ukraine, right?
If you wan to have your child, you must get custody back from the father
and move back home to the Ukraine.
Mabey someday you will remarry to a man you love and want to be more of a
mother to your child here.
Time will tell.
But stop beating yourself up about a mistake you made 10 years ago and do
the best that you can for now.
Remember, all you can do is the best you can do.
Figure out what you want, (I know it may take some time),
make a plan, and do it.
It's all up to you.
You can never cut the embiliocal cord. He will always be your son.
I know, it is all water over the bridge. I do have someone that loves me and he has children that I dearly love as well. I think it is just my bad experience with men i was with at the time. Like I said, I am only venting about the feeling and some old emotions. But I sure can handle the children better than most of women out there. It does not always mean I can't have feeling about it. I am US citizen, I have a right man now and a better new life.
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I hate being without my kid. I think that is my issue. I need to spend more time with my son like I used to.
My two abusive husbands is water over the bridge. Those people made me feel bad, now they are gone... I have a new man that has been devoted to me for years, an education ( would like more) and a great job. I just need to learn to enjoy it. Sometimes I feel bad about what happened to me, but like I said, I have done all I can and made right choices to be happy NOW.
I was only venting. But of course they are going to be a-holes to call me names. I am above such people.
My kid is 11 and lives with his dad. I don't have to do a lot of work. What upsets me is being forced into motherhood and observation of how mothers are treated. How quality of your life sinks as soon as you have a kid. How opportunities and doors close. How I missed out on getting my PhD and travels... Etc.... I don't think it is worth it.
You could have adopted him out and gone on with your life. You had choices. You should not be bitter because you are not happy with the choices you made.
I don't know where you live, or what "poor treatment" you are talking about. I know many mothers and they do not seem to be treated badly.
Besides that, nobody is going to know you are a mother unless you tell them. They don't tattoo it across your forehead in the delivery room, I don't believe.
I hate being a mother. I do love my son, he is a sweet little person, but I hate being a mother. All the abuse I had to take was associated with being a mother. I see other mothers sometimes being privileged with benefits, support, caring husband, respect etc... Me, on the other hand was always treated like second class citizen because of that. On the top of being birth control sabotaged and forced into motherhood, is this normal to feel such a resentment towards everything associated with motherhood?
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Originally Posted by 20yrsinBranson
You could have adopted him out and gone on with your life. You had choices. You should not be bitter because you are not happy with the choices you made.
I don't know where you live, or what "poor treatment" you are talking about. I know many mothers and they do not seem to be treated badly.
Besides that, nobody is going to know you are a mother unless you tell them. They don't tattoo it across your forehead in the delivery room, I don't believe.
20yrsinBranson
Adopting out? Never!
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My kid is 11 and lives with his dad. I don't have to do a lot of work. What upsets me is being forced into motherhood and observation of how mothers are treated. How quality of your life sinks as soon as you have a kid. How opportunities and doors close. How I missed out on getting my PhD and travels... Etc.... I don't think it is worth it.
you could also look at it this way, what's done is done. Whatever opportunities you think you may have missed need to be pursued again or perhaps you can look to develop some new opportunities for yourself.
Also, it's not over until it's over so if you want a PhD and you want to travel you can still do those things especially in light of the fact the your son lives with his father. I am sorry to hear that you were somehow forced into motherhood and if you can find a way to get past that hurt and resentment whether with a professional or some other outlet. Just a thought for you to ponder.
Some mothers may not be treated as you would expect, however, perhaps you can change that to suit your expectations. Whatever you can do for yourself do it now rather than later or never and best wishes to you.
Best regards, sincerely
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My feelings are sorted out! Thank you!
