Gay lifestyle as an alternative to dealing with Women (relationship, feelings, people)
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So I've always been curious about this issue and wanted to get some feedback from others. I have an old friend (30years) who is gay and he once told me that he believes that homosexuality is lifestyle choice for many in the GLBT community. I'm sure, of course, that genetics/DNA may predispose some/to homosexuality, but assuming it is a lifestyle choice for others, to what extent do you believe it could be a result of their failed efforts or inability to connect with women romantically or intimately, or at least partly due to it. Like my friend, he said that he was exposed to porn at adult video stores (arcades) at a very young age and that exposure turned him off to being attracted woman ever since. So, it is possible that many men's lack of obtaining girlfriends, getting laid, or have no/limited romantic and intimate experience encourages them to accept homosexuality as a socially acceptable alternative lifestyle to satisfy their basic human need for intimacy???
This is a serious question, particularly with the recent social acceptance of a GBLT community, is it acceptable for guys to consider the gay/bi lifestyle if they can't or don't want to deal with the issues of rejection, approach anxiety, forever friendzoned, etc. that comes with modern dating hazards??? Like many here on this forum seeking answers to they lonely hearts?
And, FYI, I had a couple of homosexual experiences in my early 20s but it was just experimental and that experience helped confirm my hetero sexual preference and have never had any interest in gay encounters since. Just in case you thought I was trolling...
Thoughts??
Homosexuality IS A CHOICE.
And in a straight man's eyes.....there is no such thing as a bisexual man. He is either straight or homosexual.
OP- I am failing to see the logic in your post. Your male friend feels rejected by women, has social anxiety, fears to approach, is afraid of being friend zoned, etc. etc.
Just how would suddenly becoming homosexual fix that problem ? Do you think every homosexual person willing beds every other person who is also homosexual ? Do you think there is no rejection, no choice, no drama, alienation etc. in same sex relationships than there are in heterosexual relationships ?
People who can't relate to other human beings, who have social anxieties, can't maintain relationships, etc. have deep rooted problems that have nothing to do with sexual orientation.
I judged your post; after you judged and analyzed incorrectly my very existence.
OK, I have a question for you. Why do gay people tend to have heterosexual relationships before they have their first homosexual relationship? If people are in fact born gay, then they should know right from the start that they are not interested in the opposite sex.
Before you say it's not true. About 10 years ago I worked at one place for about two years, where most of my female coworkers were lesbians. Nine of them to be exact. Half homosexual, half were bisexual. It was a very slow work environment. So I had a lot of time to talk to them and get to know them very well. Every single one of them had had at least one heterosexual relationship in their past. Thats 100%, not a small number, and pretty typical of other gay people I have known.
So the question is, why does it seem that most people go from being heterosexual to being gay? Any answer for that?
OK, I have a question for you. Why do gay people tend to have heterosexual relationships before they have their first homosexual relationship? If people are in fact born gay, then they should know right from the start that they are not interested in the opposite sex.
Before you say it's not true. About 10 years ago I worked at one place for about two years, where most of my female coworkers were lesbians. Nine of them to be exact. Half homosexual, half were bisexual. It was a very slow work environment. So I had a lot of time to talk to them and get to know them very well. Every single one of them had had at least one heterosexual relationship in their past. Thats 100%, not a small number, and pretty typical of other gay people I have known.
So the question is, why does it seem that most people go from heterosexual to gay? Any answer for that?
Is this a real question??
Wouldn't you think that while someone has certain feelings growing up, they are bombed with anti gay feelings so they try to cover or ignore their nature feelings to "fit in"
I know a guy who had a series of failed relationships with women, and he's now with a guy. So apparently it does happen. But I think it's rare.
maybe thats why he had bad luck with women,,,he was gay all along..
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I think it is possible for a guy to have unhappy experiences with woman and prefer male friends but not want got get into sex.
