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Insecurity is the most likely outcome, but there's a smaller chance that they swing. However, if they were swingers, it's not all that difficult to find other swingers. Every city has a swingers club and there are swinging communities online. Why would you mention to random other guys that your wife is hot, especially when that other guy isn't a known swinger?
If that guy is insecure, the insecurity will manifest itself in the primary relationship, and the woman will lose attraction. When the woman loses attraction, she'll find another male. An in shape 55 year old woman will have no shortage of male options.
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Originally Posted by Steve McDonald
Once there was a guy who kept telling me how great his wife looked and he wanted me to come over for dinner and meet her. There were danger signs lighting-up about that, for sure. As it turned out, they were finished with each other sexually and he was hoping I'd want to provide her some distraction, so he could be with this other woman. They had some financial entanglements and couldn't afford to separate or divorce or they would probably have lost their joint business enterprise. I avoided him after that and even quit going places where I might have run into him. No one but a fool would ever get into such a mix-up, with no good result in sight. But wouldn't you think the woman could have found a diversion by herself, without his help?
I agree. The woman probably could have found other options easily. Weird situation. You were wise to avoid.
I am female and have a male friend that constantly tells me how great his sex life is. Completely out of the blue, he manages to fit it into the conversation any time we see each other. I never respond, I just continue with the conversation as if it never happened.
Considering I know how miserable he has been in his marriage over the years, I think he's just trying to convince himself it's true. They are in their 50s and he's been doing this more frequently the past 10 years or so.
Agreed that it's probably a touch of insecurity, or perhaps early onset Alzheimer's. "Yeah, you told me that already"
Have you met his wife? Maybe she is really hot but has some other glaring shortcoming. It's a bit odd that he would only mention this superficial aspect of her. Not sure she'd entirely appreciate that, but at least it's positive.
Its funny, when you are in a relationship for a few decades, it seems to me that on some level, you always look lovingly at the same person you first met. You don't realize an age change. Sure, its there, but its not what your mind's eye sees when you think about your love.
This!
When you see someone everyday, you don't see or notice time taking its toll. Your mate is the person who makes you smile.
LOL!
Its funny, when you are in a relationship for a few decades, it seems to me that on some level, you always look lovingly at the same person you first met. You don't realize an age change. Sure, its there, but its not what your mind's eye sees when you think about your love.
So true.
I always think about this when I see those stories about high school sweethearts who fall back in love when they're 70 years and widowed, etc. Maybe it brings back a feeling of youth, because they can remember each other when they were young
So I've got this acquaintance, he is maybe 9 years older than me, like mid 50's. Great guy, but every other conversation, he somehow manages to squeeze in some quip about how hot his was still is, or how good her body looks as she works out 2 hr a day. I really don't know how I am supposed to react to a statement like that.
It's strange because the only other guy I knew who used to talk like that was a Dbag.
My wife is pretty and all that too, but I don't throw that fact in to others on a regular basis.
What is this behavior called?
Leftovers from our patriarchal society. (Yes I used a buzzword)
A. Men have been judged to see their partners as status symbols like homes, cars and wealth. Especially for that age range.
B. Women’s value, at all ages, is still tied up in looks.
So it is no surprise an older man, who wants to prove he has succeeded in life, Braggs about his wife’s looks. That is the message we have been sending them for years. Ahem that is the basic premise of most sitcoms. (Cough, cough Modern Family)
So I've got this acquaintance, he is maybe 9 years older than me, like mid 50's. Great guy, but every other conversation, he somehow manages to squeeze in some quip about how hot his was still is, or how good her body looks as she works out 2 hr a day. I really don't know how I am supposed to react to a statement like that.
It's strange because the only other guy I knew who used to talk like that was a Dbag.
My wife is pretty and all that too, but I don't throw that fact in to others on a regular basis.
What is this behavior called?
He sounds immature, and like he has low self-esteem. Kind of like guys who display their rolex at every opportunity, and/or drive a shiny sports car to show off their "status".
I overheard my husband tell an old aquiantance of his about me. They were talking through headphones, playing WOW, and the two of them used to be business partners.
He was telling this guy that he had remarried. The other guy said something (I don't know) and my husband said "She's hot."
Whether I'm hot or not, it was nice that my husband thought so.
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