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"Men are weak, men are irrelevant, I don't need no man," feminism, etc. All pervasive in mass media these days. Lies and gibberish. The mental issues these people have are terrifying. No wonder mood altering meds and other substances are so pervasive in modern society.
Give me a break. Just walk off from all that. Men chasing excellence have options. Simps and losers don't and live in a scarcity mindset. Be your best man, you'll have options (not implying OP doesn't, just in-general). Your dad shouldn't have had a discussion, just "we're moving to CO for the following reasons. We'll be there in two months." Women are a complement, never the focus, of a man's existence.
My father split the difference (Silent Generation): he put with stuff he never should have, but knew how to pick his battles and taught me well. Society tried to un-teach me and my Gen X brethren. They failed, thank God. I pity the young guys these days who haven't been tested by life...yet. Be on your purpose, guys.
"Men are weak, men are irrelevant, I don't need no man," feminism, etc. All pervasive in mass media these days. Lies and gibberish. The mental issues these people have are terrifying. No wonder mood altering meds and other substances are so pervasive in modern society.
Give me a break. Just walk off from all that. Men chasing excellence have options. Simps and losers don't and live in a scarcity mindset. Be your best man, you'll have options (not implying OP doesn't, just in-general). Your dad shouldn't have had a discussion, just "we're moving to CO for the following reasons. We'll be there in two months." Women are a complement, never the focus, of a man's existence.
My father split the difference (Silent Generation): he put with stuff he never should have, but knew how to pick his battles and taught me well. Society tried to un-teach me and my Gen X brethren. They failed, thank God. I pity the young guys these days who haven't been tested by life...yet. Be on your purpose, guys.
You haven't met the right woman yet. It took me awhile, but I did good. And so can you if you lose the bitters.
Married over 50 years here to my DH. I have on occasion used him as the reason for not doing something I did not want to do. And, I totally trust him to manage our finances. He trusts me to make color choices for our home.
Before we moved cross country, he told me that we would not be able to afford house cleaners. I told him that he would have to take on some house cleaning chores. Married life is full of compromises.
A smart man lets his S.O. choose the color of the mailbox; where to have dinner; choice of movies; and dozens of other "who gives a $hit" decisions.
In exchange, his partner is more likely to be amenable to doing things that he does care about.
Note: It doesn't hurt to feign interest in the color of the mailbox and let her "win" the color choice to score points for later.
I totally agree with this, regardless of gender. If there are decisions you could go either way about and your spouse DOES have a strong opinion, why NOT let them make the decision? They care and you don't. And yes, that gives you a bit of "political capital" for the things you DO care about. You "gave up" some stuff you didn't care about so how does that hurt you?
Here's how me and my wife make big decisions regarding the house: I freak out that something needs to be done about a problem. Then she freaks out.
If she can't fix it, we have to find someone and pay them. She freaks out again.
I find someone aMod cut.! Let the house fall apart!" is my usual reply. Then she usually says "I'll do it myself!" I offer to help do the job.
We calm down.
Then a few days later I ask "When we going to start?" She freaks out.
I get the contractor on the phone and give it to her and tell her to ask him what she wants to know.
They're usually patient. They come out, give a detailed, written quote, she agrees and they schedule the job.
Job gets done well and everybody is happy.
She's great - replaced the oven igniter and got more life out of a dryer. Patched leaks in the rear cellar wall. I let her go. She likes the challenge and likes saving money. Win-win for henry!
Appliance purchases are pretty calm because we're both pretty conservative.
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Made me laugh. Isn't that true? One time I stood in the kitchen door and heard daughter and DH on the deck. She was playing her father like a violin.
And he loves it!
Seriously, I know it can be fun and cute, but I hope she doesn't develop a princess attitude. Can cause problems for her in the future. Same goes the little 'king' boys.
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A smart man lets his S.O. choose the color of the mailbox; where to have dinner; choice of movies; and dozens of other "who gives a $hit" decisions. 
