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If there's a concise "secret" it is probably that. My failing early on was wanting / expecting WAY too much.
On the other hand, as Dilbert once said, "I ask for so little ... and boy, do I get it." ;-)
Voltaire wrote, “The best is the enemy of the good.” Confucius said, “Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without.” And there's Shakespeare: “Striving to better, oft we mar what's well.” I enjoy a rack of lamb, but sometimes a hot dog or a frozen burrito can taste just as good. My favorite Shakespeare quote is "Nothing is either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."
You haven't met the right woman yet. It took me awhile, but I did good. And so can you if you lose the bitters.
YES! THIS! I finally met the right guy. (Actually I reconnected with an old boyfriend from high school) I can't begin to explain how this feels emotionally. Never thought it would happen.....after some really bad relationships. In my opinion, it's somewhat of a 'pick your battle' type of thing? If something means more to your loved one, let them have it and want them to be happy!
Say father's day is coming up. And the husband really wants to see his father for a short father-son get together. Does the husband have to check with the wife? (get permission?)
Or is it ok for the husband to tell the wife he's made plans to see his father on father's day? She can come if she wants, because she is family. She knows that. She may not want to go and husband is ok with that.
Say father's day is coming up. And the husband really wants to see his father for a short father-son get together. Does the husband have to check with the wife? (get permission?)
Or is it ok for the husband to tell the wife he's made plans to see his father on father's day? She can come if she wants, because she is family. She knows that. She may not want to go and husband is ok with that.
Husband may need to check the family schedule to make sure he can fit it around what his wife and kids may have planned to celebrate HIM on Father's Day.
Is this a difficult concept? Have you people ever been in a family?
Choice is agony, choicelessness is Freedom/Eastern Philosophy
This fits my indecisive brother to T.
30 years of marriage, and family members would be puzzled: Is he ever going to stand up to her? (She never worked a day in their 30 year marriage)
Wife decides to move to Las Vegas, brother gives up his mechanic job. He loved it, never wanted to leave, she loved it at first, then? Let's move back to MN, after 2 years. And back they go! Children long grown up.
They moved 7 times over those 30 years.
My brother came to visit last winter. Anything you want to see and do? "Whatever you want to do!" Same thing when we met up in NYC: "Whatever you want to do!"
Someone posted that there are some men who enjoy marrying a decision-maker, and I believe there are those husbands around, who don't have to go thru the agony of choice. And then there are the others!
Wife has passed away, came into some life insurance money, and free as a bird now, I suggested a first trip to Europe or a cruise. "I'll think about it!" And? I know what the results will be.
If he remarries, I'll put bets on it, he'll marry a replica of his first wife.
When it comes to people, what you do to another can be done back to you. If a husband makes decisions without his wife, she can easily do it back to him. While this can certainly look threatening, it doesn't have to be. There just needs to be an understanding that the world doesn't revolve around one person.
When it comes to people, what you do to another can be done back to you. If a husband makes decisions without his wife, she can easily do it back to him. While this can certainly look threatening, it doesn't have to be. There just needs to be an understanding that the world doesn't revolve around one person.
You mean like one year the husband decides to go to France and the next year the wife gets to choose?
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