People who force food on others: why? (marriage, relationship)
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A few people who I know will make food for someone, without being asked, and try to force the person to eat it. Even if the person never asked for it, never stated that s/he likes it and may not even be hungry. Then the food-forced gets angry.
If you do this to people, why do you? Why make food for someone without knowing if the person likes it, and then getting angry at the person if the person doesn’t eat it?
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Never, ever, refuse gratis food. {gratis = offer without expectations in return.}
Not "polite" to refuse offered food.
If I witness a person refuse food, my opinion drops a couple of notches of that person.
A few people who I know will make food for someone, without being asked, and try to force the person to eat it. Even if the person never asked for it, never stated that s/he likes it and may not even be hungry. Then the food-forced gets angry.
If you do this to people, why do you? Why make food for someone without knowing if the person likes it, and then getting angry at the person if the person doesn’t eat it?
This sounds like you're complaining about a specific instance. What happened?
Never, ever, refuse gratis food. {gratis = offer without expectations in return.}
Not "polite" to refuse offered food.
If I witness a person refuse food, my opinion drops a couple of notches of that person.
Second, biggest insult: "What is It?"
YFMV
So if someone who is really health conscious and into fitness already has dinner prepared and is handed a plate of fettuccini Alfredo and is told “you have to eat this now!”, the health conscious person is rude?
I don't care if someone thinks I'm rude, I'm not going to eat what I don't want for whatever the reason. (I'm not hungry, I don't eat that, etc.) I don't care if people think it's rude to ask what's in it. I don't eat certain things because I avoid them or because I no longer can (milk), so if it's something I don't/can't eat, I want to know.
That said, I don't think I've ever "forced" food on others, maybe "encouraged" is the right word, but only if I thought it was tasty, and a must-try. That's happened to me, too, but I have no problem saying no and not thinking anything of it.
Your small acceptance is minor compared to the effort the host made.
Are you not in a marriage or LT relationship?
YFMV
I did that and the person still got mad.
I was having dinner. One person who helps a relative of mine came by with a big plate of high-fat food that I didn’t like anyway. She put it in front of me, told me that she made it for me and that I had to eat it, right then and there. I took a bit and told her that I wanted to save some for other family members and she got mad.
Why am I the rude one?
If you bring a bottle of wine to a party, it’s rude to expect the host to serve it then. Same for any food.
I was having dinner. One person who helps a relative of mine came by with a big plate of high-fat food that I didn’t like anyway. She put it in front of me, told me that she made it for me and that I had to eat it, right then and there. I took a bit and told her that I wanted to save some for other family members and she got mad.
Why am I the rude one?
If you bring a bottle of wine to a party, it’s rude to expect the host to serve it then. Same for any food.
Why am I reminded of the movie "The Help"?
There is simply no way I would respond politely to such a demand. There are too many things wrong.
I was having dinner. One person who helps a relative of mine came by with a big plate of high-fat food that I didn’t like anyway. She put it in front of me, told me that she made it for me and that I had to eat it, right then and there. I took a bit and told her that I wanted to save some for other family members and she got mad.
Why am I the rude one?
If you bring a bottle of wine to a party, it’s rude to expect the host to serve it then. Same for any food.
This person came over to your house while you were already eating dinner and tried to force you to eat another dinner?
Is this your mother? Does she suffer from dementia?
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