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I think he thinks a lot of people are lower than him on the totem pole.
We probably WILL encounter him again. This time, my husband will be with me. It'll be interesting to see how things play out. I suspect my husband will confront him, and John will apologize to my HUSBAND, and not me.
Sounds like the typical frat boy douche, that never grew past that stage. He never learned how to interact with women on an adult level so resorts to the frat boy "let's do shots !!" rhetoric. Zero game to fall back on.
That being said, I was just like him when i was in my 20's. I've always been a bit socially awkward, and back then the alcohol definitely helped with that. While I've grew out of that stage, am still socially awkward but when dealing with women I tend to be polite, and more aloof, around them.
I'm married now so hopefully all that stuff is behind me.
Well the ladies decided not to say no is what really happened. Kind of a headscratcher if you ask me.
Not to put the blame on anyone, but a lot of times women go against their gut feelings in order to be nice and not come across as b-words. Sometimes this ends up with having a less-than-stellar evening, other times it's much worse.
Because 2 of the women (the single women) were more interested in him. The "single" energy was working here. lol
To each their own, but that would be the last gender-specific weekend I'd spend with single friends. I mean no harm in wanting a hookup in general but not within the auspices of a friends weekend. JMHO.
Unless really everyone liked the attention until it got out of hand.
You've only been around him a few times and have slapped labels on him. He doesn't need a diagnosis to be annoying, and you don't need an excuse not to hang with him.
This reminds me of myself in college when I thought it was "rude" or mean to tell people where to shove it. I get that it's hard, especially in a group, especially if not everyone is on the same page (poor single friend needs to get attention from someone who isn't an a-hole). And I'm NOT saying you were leading him on or encouraging his behavior, but you (group you, not SnazzyB you) need to be more blunt or forceful to get oblivious, aggro goons to back off.
Go ahead and call me a drunk b*. I'll fire back whatever I need to if that stops my stupid single friend from taking a "night ride" with a drunk driver.
(This post is coming across judgey when I don't mean it that way... that's me reliving the many poor choices I made before learning the hard way.)
And if he apologizes to your husband? I have nooooo words. Just yuck all the way around.
To each their own, but that would be the last gender-specific weekend I'd spend with single friends. I mean no harm in wanting a hookup in general but not within the auspices of a friends weekend. JMHO.
Unless really everyone liked the attention until it got out of hand.
I was the oldest in the group at 66, and I've been married almost 21 years. Kelly is the youngest in the group at 38, and married 15 years. Dana is single, and Kelly's mom. She's in her mid to late 50's. And then there was Kim, Dana's friend, and about the same age as Dana. Kim is who John was interested in the most. John is 46.
Most of my friends are married. I had failed to factor in the 'single energy' lol.
Well the ladies decided not to say no is what really happened. Kind of a headscratcher if you ask me.
Yes, which is why it is difficult to comment on that situation because of the different intentions or lack of intentions. Maybe I play too safe, but a guy insisting on being one of the women instead of being in service of the women, which to me is the definition of "girls" weekend, is an obnoxious one. And nothing is free.
Yes, which is why it is difficult to comment on that situation because of the different intentions or lack of intentions. Maybe I play too safe, but a guy insisting on being one of the women instead of being in service of the women, which to me is the definition of "girls" weekend, is an obnoxious one. And nothing is free.
I don't think that's playing it safe at all, I think I understand and agree with what you're saying. A girls weekend is a GIRLS weekend. A man interloping AND being allowed to interlope like this buffoon did is not appropriate IMHO. I'm not a pearl-clutcher or prude, I just believe it can't lead to much good.
Can you imagine if the genders were reversed and some rando single chick wormed her way into a guys weekend?
Anyhow, this isn't meant to imply that casual, brief engagements with a guy while out in public on the weekend are inappropriate. But this clearly wasn't that.
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