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Volunteering for a cause you love is always a great idea, because a) you are still doing something worthwhile even if you don't "meet" anybody that day (though you will still likely make friends) and b) anyone you DO meet will share at least one interest with you and c) the fact that they volunteer will usually be a positive character trait.
Places like the SPCA, Habitat for Humanity, and countless other non-profits ALWAYS want people to help with anything from stuffing envelopes at the office (a good no-commitment way to meet a few folks and scope out the organization) to doing "the work" of the org itself. Also, local Arts groups always need volunteers, especially theatre groups (yes, I'm beating that horse) to build sets, make costumes, work backstage, etc. It's a lot more fun than it might sound (being backstage) and techies are super-friendly. You kind of need to be a "night person" to volunteer in theatre, but no doubt other arts groups have more daytime schedules.
Look up websites for nonprofits that interest you and they WILL have a way to write in and sign up for something.
That online dating thing does actually work if you're looking for someone serious and compatible. I know several married or serious couples who met that way, despite their initial skepticism. If it is more just about someone to fool around with casually, just go to any bar in Raleigh...
That online dating thing does actually work if you're looking for someone serious and compatible. I know several married or serious couples who met that way, despite their initial skepticism. If it is more just about someone to fool around with casually, just go to any bar in Raleigh...
Yup. All my single 30+ female friends who have partnered up in the past several years met their guys on either eHarmony or jdate. That's finding the guys where they are -- on their computers!
That online dating thing does actually work if you're looking for someone serious and compatible. I know several married or serious couples who met that way, despite their initial skepticism. If it is more just about someone to fool around with casually, just go to any bar in Raleigh...
It seems like our married and/or dating friends met their significant other at one of two places :
1.) "like" minded group like Habitat, RSOC, church group
2.) on-line dating (surprising to me too, but the "stigma" is gone for many folks)
Come to think of it ... actually three places. Work being the third. But then again, both those couples are divorced.
So far, it sounds like we're doing everything right (if that is possible). Since moving here, I joined several MeetUp groups (that is how I met these girlfrields with whom I share this issue ). As someone mentioned, Meet Up has been great to meet new girlfriends, but I haven't met a guy I'd be interested in dating.
We have gone to sports bars and bars on Glenwood and they all felt very young. It was fun to flirt with the 20-somethings but it was obvious the guys were in very different places in their lives, as expected. We have gone to a couple of the "singles" Meet Ups but nobody really stood out (and we did mingle individually). In fact, we each felt some very weird vibes from the group...if that makes sense.
I don't think anyone in my new group of friends is wanting to get married tomorrow, but it would be nice to met somone that could be more than just "casual."
I think next on my list will be volunteering, as Francois suggested. Great idea to meet people and do something I care about. If I meet a nice guy - bonus!
In The Music Man, a quality guy needed only to be "a combination of Paul Bunyon, St. Patrick, and Noah Webster" in order to overcome Marian's "Irish imagination, Iowa stubbornness, and library full of books." Goodness knows what he would need to be 100 years later in Raleigh.
This thread is funny, some of you crack me up (in a nice way, good sense of humor). I am happily married for 11 years next month. Would be terrified if I had to date.
We'll tell you -- if you tell us where all the single 30's - 40's women hang out. Fair?
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Love the ideas...
