Almost a 40 year old virgin...

[SookieStackhouse]

I don't feel like training somebody... I want somebody who knows what he is doing.


Besides, being that old and never having done it, that is just strange.

[sarahkate_m]

Originally Posted by Indurain

I find it surprising that there are some men here, who appear to have never engaged in any sexual activity of any kind (or else I am reading their posts incorrectly).

The definition of male virginity, for me, is someone who has never engaged in sexual intercourse ie has inserted ones penis in to a womans vagina.
(apologies for the use of direct language).
That is the definition of a male virgin.

I have no difficulty in understanding that some men may be virgins - given this definition.
That is their decision and I respect that decision.

But one can do plenty of other sexual stuff - and be experienced - outside of the definition above, too.
Without compromising their virginity.

As a man, i find it difficult to understand how some men have absolutely no wish or desire to engage in sexual activity of any kind.
It just doesn't make sense to me.

some people are asexual. it's just one of nature's exceptions to what we imagine is the rule.

i do enjoy your description of having a sexuality that isn't based soley on the goal of organ insertion. insightful.

[misplaced1]

Originally Posted by sun queen

Hey everyone I have a friend who is in his mid 30s. He is a handsome guy with a good work ethic. He has a great personality-a little shy though. The only thing is he has been having problems dating. He is saving himself for that someone special. He says he is a virgin Yeah believe it. And he says the problem is that most women do not want to be with him because he has no experience... For argument sake lets assume my friend is really telling the truth about his virginity and that he is not gay. He asked me if I would date a guy in his situation. I had never thought about that before so I wanted to know from the ladies and guys u r free to comment as well: Would u prefer to be with a man who has had previous experience or one with no experience at all?

I guess an inexperienced man would be better than one who learned from a woman or women who were too passive to teach him well.

[Indurain]

Originally Posted by sarahkate_m

i do enjoy your description of having a sexuality that isn't based soley on the goal of organ insertion. insightful.

Well when you're raised as roman catholic - in a roman catholic country -
believe me you'll find plenty of ways of getting your jollies without breaking the rules !

[marshfield mom]

wow I wonder if he just jacks off.maybe you should ask.maybe he just prefers it to exposing his feelings to someone else.heck ya, I would date him as long as hes not an emotional cripple.

[wallstreeterww]

Originally Posted by DixieChick1972

I don't feel like training somebody... I want somebody who knows what he is doing.


Besides, being that old and never having done it, that is just strange.

Trust me dixie chick, a real virgin whose waiting till marriage also doesnt have time to train you on the beauty of saving yourself for someone, or on how shallow our society has become about sex and love. What we do need are some real women to teach classes about about this. Its only a matter of time before that 65% divorce rate jumps to the norma which should be 85%, with comments as shallow as these

[plaidmom]

I notice this thread is from June of 2007.

I didn't have time to read the whole thread, but I am dying to know.....did the guy get laid or not???

[floridadreamer]

It's a hard question. On one hand it's appealing to date someone that wants to wait for the real thing. On the other, I'd worry that once he did experience sex, he'd either be so curious about what he's been missing all these years, or he'd be obsessed with the person he experienced it with. Without knowing the person, I can't answer truthfully.

[tallrick]

It was good that someone mentioned asexuality. Being 40 myself, and have never had sex with anyone this is not strange. It is easy to meet women, and even easier to bag them in the bedroom. Unfortunately, when you date one it always ends badly if you are asexual. I have gotten away with dating for months, and if you have a Christian fundamantalist girlfriend sex is not really an issue. That is, till the marriage talk comes up. So if the bedroom subject comes up you just have to talk about fornication and it is gone. As a kid several neighborhood kids had the stash of hutsler, playboy and penthouse magazines. I also remember seeing porn videos in my high school years. None of that ever had an effect on me. Oh and that gay stuff doesn't work either. I did have a kids crush on a blond girl in second grade, but as I got older any desire was not present. Kissing many girls has not ignited the spark. Strangely I almost freaked out when I had a dream in high school that involved kissing a girl that turned into a muscular blond guy. Thankfully I never ended up infected with homosexual abomination.