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Maybe some say they are single by choice because they don't really want to say nobody is approaching them (women) or gets rejected all the time (men).
Others are really single by choice, that is, when they start to see that the other person is beginning to show interest that goes beyond friendship, that's when they start to back up because they want to remain single and just stay away from a relationship and rather continue going out with different people no strings attached.
I honestly can't say. I really believe that most women (particularly my girlfriends) would rather have a good man in their lives than to be single and looking so I question the "by choice" part.
I wonder if they say that to reconcile the fact that they haven't found it yet or fear that they won't.
I honestly can't say. I really believe that most women (particularly my girlfriends) would rather have a good man in their lives than to be single and looking so I question the "by choice" part.
I wonder if they say that to reconcile the fact that they haven't found it yet or fear that they won't.
It just means you're not actively looking, for one reason or another. You may still entertain the thought of being with a good man should he cross your path somehow, but you just don't put effort into finding him, that's not your top priority, and you're fine with that. At least that's how I feel about it. Not looking actively for a partner and being open to one are not mutually exclusive.
I hear MOSTLY women say this. I always think is there any other reason why someone would be single other than it being their own choice?
I think they say it because they think is sounds nice rolling off of their lips. It really does not make any sense.
What does it mean?
It means they are insecure about their personal situation. A person who says it may even be incredibly lonely but goes around saying this to people in the hopes that s/he will eventually believe it is true.
If a person is truly single by choice, it does not need to be said at all.
I don't see that being single by choice has anything to do with jealousy. If you're not in a relationship and you're not actively trying to get into a relationship and you're okay with that, then you're pretty much single by choice.
There is a big difference between being single by choice, and telling people you are single by choice. This thread questions the latter.
It's usually a response to nosy, judgmental "friends" and relatives who approach them at weddings and present them with the ever-charming, "And when are YOU going to find a man and settle down?"
It's a bit more graceful than my answer, which is, "And why are YOU so interested?" But hey, I'm 43. I don't care what boors think anymore.
BTW, Chino, it's better than what the woman in question might be itching to say, which could very well be something along the lines of, "Please, they're all idiots. I'm better off with my vibrator."
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