Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
So everyone in a tavern has substance abuse issues? That's a bit of a stretch, don'tcha think?
No, but your odds increase exponentially as a high percentage of the general population already has substance abuse issues. Why take the risk and then ask why someone behaved erratically?
Had an interesting but baffling experience today that shows me once again I don't understand women a bit.
I joined a group through MeetUp.Com that meets at local taverns to watch the Sunday football games. This was a singles group BTW so presumably all of us there were single. While there, I met a lady at my table and we seemed to get along great. We talked easily with each other, laughed a lot and seemingly were comfortable with each other. She seemed very interested in me and asked many questions about my life, background, childhood etc.
We each mingled with other people though. I, in particular, was speaking to a couple of ladies at our table and she was talking with another fellow quite a bit. She always came back to me though and we would resume our conversation very easily. Also, at times when we would grow silent, she would look directly at me, making and holding eye contact and a little smile would play around her lips. All in all, we were there almost 2 hours.
She mentioned she was leaving and I had only planned to stay a short while myself so as she was leaving, I told her I was going also and would walk out with her. All at once, it was as though a switch had flipped.
She mumbled something and practically ran out of the restaurant. I had not intended to ask her out or make any kind of move on her but maybe that's what she thought. I mainly just wanted to get her impressions of the group but she acted as though I had the plague. She walked out to her car and it so happens my car was parked in the same area so I ended up following her.
I don't know if she thought I was stalking her but she shouted a goodbye over her shoulder and walked to her car without a glance in my direction. BTW, this was a busy strip mall in broad daylight so I doubt she feared for her safety.
The whole thing was puzzling though. How could she be so warm, friendly and seemingly interested one minute and turn into the ice princess so soon? She certainly didn't seem shy in the restaurant and described herself as an outdoorsy free spirit and I definitely got the impression she was rather fearless and confident and not a shy little thing.
Well, there's always next Sunday but for the life of me I've given up on understanding women.
Tactical error, Mand.
You should have said something like, "Oh, really???"
"Well, it was a pleasure meeting you. You know what we should keep in touch"
And then..... I don't know, build over it.
This is how you get contact info and phone numbers. Never offer to accompany people when you meet them for the first time, unless it's a direct date.
I'm glad I didn't have to go thru all this. Before I personally met the girlfriend I had already talked to her way too much on the phone and the like.
Are you sure she didn't get an urgent text or phone call? You only spoke to this person less than two hours, I wouldn't write off understanding women based on this experience. It could have been any number of reasons she left, half of which may have been a blessing in disguise. Like Nite Ryder said, there's always next week.
Are you sure she didn't get an urgent text or phone call? You only spoke to this person less than two hours, I wouldn't write off understanding women based on this experience. It could have been any number of reasons she left, half of which may have been a blessing in disguise. Like Nite Ryder said, there's always next week.
Okay, if this is a regular sports watching group, then avoid asking contact info too soon and then tell her you'll see her next week. Something like that.
No, but your odds increase exponentially as a high percentage of the general population already has substance abuse issues. Why take the risk and then ask why someone behaved erratically?
I feel sorry for someone who keeps themselves away from a routine social activity because they fear meeting someone with a substance abuse problem. That's like saying you'll only be with virgins because having sex with people who aren't increases your STD risk. It's true, but it's absurd.
And what would cause you to intuit the woman behaved that way because she was intoxicated, you don't even know if she was drinking? Like the vast majority of places that serve alcohol, I'm sure this place also served food and non-alcoholic beverages.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I feel sorry for someone who keeps themselves away from a routine social activity because they fear meeting someone with a substance abuse problem. That's like saying you'll only be with virgins because having sex with people who aren't increases your STD risk. It's true, but it's absurd.
