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No, that would have freaked me out too. I would have felt like the guy was expecting something or wanted to come home with me. Of course, I am older, and would have asked you what the heck you are doing, "Hello, I am LEAVING...if I wanted to leave with you, I would have TOLD you, Wierdo."
Geez, she is probably talking about this psycho guy she sort of liked, until he went creepy and followed her out to her car when she decided to leave. Like, STALKER FREAK...Geez, and all of her friends would just shake their heads about how weird and strange men are...creepy! Totally!
I suggest next time when she or another woman leaves around the time you want to just ask her if she would like you to walk her to her car if she says no thanks I'm ok then don't, wait about 5 minutes then leave. This way you won't look like a stalker or desperate. Best way I think to get her to say ok to walking her to her car would be I'd feel better knowing you got to your car safe how about I walk you to your car or at least halfway.
THIS^^. Always. Never invite yourself to walk a woman out to her car. Ever.
She mentioned she was leaving and I had only planned to stay a short while myself so as she was leaving, I told her I was going also and would walk out with her.
maybe she thought were using this as an excuse to awkwardly "make a move". that's kind of a generic way to get a kiss goodnight.
maybe she didn't like you.
maybe she did like you, but met another guy she liked too, and she didn't want you screwing up her game.
maybe she trying to leave, and you said, "Hey, I'll leave too," like a puppy that follows you anywhere..
You are assuming she enjoyed your company as well as she enjoyed yours however. Given that you were at a bar and i'm sure drinking, then perhaps your views are a bit more skewed then hers?
To be honest I would have felt a little intimidated if a guy I only met two hours ago was walking out behind me to my car and then driving behind me. Something tells me she won't be back next week.
Never invite yourself to walk a woman out to her car. Ever.
Oh come on, ChessieMom, they had a nice conversation, it was broad daylight in a mall and you're saying he shouldn't have offered to walk her to her car? Have gentlemanly acts really deteriorated this much in so few years? Or are you being tongue in cheek?
Mandavarn, who the heck could possibly know why she did the turnaround. I wouldn't waste any sleep over it and just go to the next "meet" and keep your options open. Good luck!
Oh come on, ChessieMom, they had a nice conversation, it was broad daylight in a mall and you're saying he shouldn't have offered to walk her to her car? Have gentlemanly acts really deteriorated this much in so few years? Or are you being tongue in cheek?
Mandavarn, who the heck could possibly know why she did the turnaround. I wouldn't waste any sleep over it and just go to the next "meet" and keep your options open. Good luck!
"Offered"? Sure - that would have been the very best thing to do. But he didn't offer or ask. He invited himself - told her he was going to walk out with her. That's a very distinct difference, and really could have been viewed as a bit pushy. For some women, especially those that are on the timid side, that would be enough to set off their "freak alarm". And that sounds like exactly what happened, in my opinion.
As far as gentlemenly acts, personally, no....I don't think they have deteriorated much at all. Only on this forum do I see such signs - thank goodness.
My first thought was that she didn't want to leave at the same time as you because it would have given everyone else in the tavern the wrong impression. If I was that girl, even if I liked you, I wouldn't leave the bar with you (even just to walk to my car) because it might look like we are "leaving together". She ovbiously knows others/has friends at that meet-up and wouldn't want them to get the wrong impression.
As a previous poster suggested, the best way in the future would be to ask if she would like you to walk her to the car.
Or, if you meet someone there you connect with, just casually mention seeing them there the following week. Keep it casual and friendly.
Had an interesting but baffling experience today that shows me once again I don't understand women a bit.
I joined a group through MeetUp.Com that meets at local taverns to watch the Sunday football games. This was a singles group BTW so presumably all of us there were single. While there, I met a lady at my table and we seemed to get along great. We talked easily with each other, laughed a lot and seemingly were comfortable with each other. She seemed very interested in me and asked many questions about my life, background, childhood etc.
We each mingled with other people though. I, in particular, was speaking to a couple of ladies at our table and she was talking with another fellow quite a bit. She always came back to me though and we would resume our conversation very easily. Also, at times when we would grow silent, she would look directly at me, making and holding eye contact and a little smile would play around her lips. All in all, we were there almost 2 hours.
She mentioned she was leaving and I had only planned to stay a short while myself so as she was leaving, I told her I was going also and would walk out with her. All at once, it was as though a switch had flipped.
She mumbled something and practically ran out of the restaurant. I had not intended to ask her out or make any kind of move on her but maybe that's what she thought. I mainly just wanted to get her impressions of the group but she acted as though I had the plague. She walked out to her car and it so happens my car was parked in the same area so I ended up following her.
I don't know if she thought I was stalking her but she shouted a goodbye over her shoulder and walked to her car without a glance in my direction. BTW, this was a busy strip mall in broad daylight so I doubt she feared for her safety.
The whole thing was puzzling though. How could she be so warm, friendly and seemingly interested one minute and turn into the ice princess so soon? She certainly didn't seem shy in the restaurant and described herself as an outdoorsy free spirit and I definitely got the impression she was rather fearless and confident and not a shy little thing.
Well, there's always next Sunday but for the life of me I've given up on understanding women.
Women usually feel a lot safer around men when talk about sex or take out their private-lol
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