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How do women feel about being approached by a random guy out in public like on the bus, at the bookstore, at Starbucks, etc.? Basically any everyday place that doesn't serve alcohol
Most of the women I've met and dated were from social circles and mutual gatherings. The few times I've tried to approach a women out in public turned out quite awkward even when they were dropping overt "signals".
(Fyi, there's a lot of literature on other sites about this, particularly the "pick up artist / seduction" community. I'm NOT really into that sort of thing since it just simply isn't compatible with my personality and values so please don't suggest anything like saying those special pickup lines to her.)
I think most girls would have their guard up when being approached in public by a random guy. For all you know you are a weirdo. Also you do not know if they are taken or not. Your better off dating from your circles and meetings unless you are ok with getting rejected ALOT. Your also dating women based on how they look, rather then their personality, so start thinking with your big head, not the little one.
I never minded it as long as the guy was respectful. One of the first big loves of my life was a man I met in the grocery store. We were both looking for the perfect avocado. He made a comment about how avocados should be one of the four major food groups and I laughed. He somehow managed to get right in line behind me at the check out and chatted me up. He never asked for my number and I never offered it, but I must have mentioned my job because the next day there were flowers from him on my desk along with a note asking me out and his phone number.
He was super handsome, smart, and funny. We were inseparable for nearly two years until I screwed it up.
I've been asked out by strangers lots of times. How I feel about it really depends on how you come across and my intuition.
I'm not trying to offend any women on here but in general women that are at least somewhat attractive do NOT want approached in publc. If it's a woman that doesn't get much attention from men usually...then she will be much more receptive to it. Also most women over 27 or so are not single...so randomly approaching a woman that is married is a bad idea. All around it's just a bad idea unless you get a clear signal that she wants you to talk to her.
I was at this summer festival one time and I walked by a group of guys and one of them grabbed me by the arm and pulled me towards him. Lets just say it was pretty scary. I guess it all depends on how they approach you. If done in a polite, respectful way I'd be flattered.
WANDERLIST: so what you are saying is that if we dont mind being approached we are not that great looking, dont usually get any attention from men or are probably married.
why dont you let the women here answer for themselves, hmmm?
i personally would not be offended if it was done respectfully. i would be flattered.
If I'm in a store, coffee shop, etc. I wouldn't mind at all. I guess I wouldn't assume it was a pick up either though, and just a friendly person.
I'm happily married but I don't usually wear my rings, so whomever is approaching would not have that information. I can't say I've ever been rude to someone just trying to make conversation. If he got creepy I'd just excuse myself and walk away.
Sorry but I don't like it. I like being able to just go places and not be bothered. It happens a lot and usually just makes me leave the place I am at. To me the grocery store, the library, a coffee shop etc... should not be places that men bother women. Speak, smile, and if a woman is interested, she will find a way to let you know. Also, never pay attention to any of that pick up stuff...it just makes most women's skin crawl.
How do women feel about being approached by a random guy out in public like on the bus, at the bookstore, at Starbucks, etc.? Basically any everyday place that doesn't serve alcohol
Most of the women I've met and dated were from social circles and mutual gatherings. The few times I've tried to approach a women out in public turned out quite awkward even when they were dropping overt "signals".
(Fyi, there's a lot of literature on other sites about this, particularly the "pick up artist / seduction" community. I'm NOT really into that sort of thing since it just simply isn't compatible with my personality and values so please don't suggest anything like saying those special pickup lines to her.)
How else will people meet if not in random public places... Don't be shy, we don't bite lol... unless you ask nicely... jus kidding!
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