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Nope, impossible, men don't cause drama remember? Only women can do that...just like we all sit around watching soaps all day...not working...thinking up drama to start.
Nope, impossible, men don't cause drama remember? Only women can do that...just like we all sit around watching soaps all day...not working...thinking up drama to start.
Is there a difference between nagging and talking about your feelings? Reading between the lines, it seems your boyfriend is bothered by nagging, rather than hearing you tell him how you feel. Often the difference between the two gets lost.
To an extent, some women create drama because instead of letting it go, they have the need to keep it going. Most men don't like to argue so if we (some men) can avoid drama, that's what we'll try to do. I suppose most couples think that "fighting is healthy"
drama seems to be a catchall man-phrase for "stuff that comes out of her mouth when she uses the word 'feelings'". its the word that is easy to reach for when a guy feels outgunned. when he doesn't want to talk about something and she does. when she says something in a tone that screams "PMS". doesn't really seem to have as much to do with what she is saying than HOW she is saying it and HOW OFTEN.
its also a term used widely by the hard-of-thinking when they don't want to deal with someone's strong emotions. "drama" is a great word to denigrate someone's feelings.
it can also imply a situation in which all solutions, all advice, and all common sense has been ignored and the play just repeats itself. it implies a stiffness, an inability to change the game, an unwillingness to end the "drama" because something about it is satisfying to at least one of the actors or else it would not go on. and like any old show with some actor hanging on to a bad part in some off-off-off-broadway production, there is probably alot of fear in ending the whole show. but the audience can't be expected to keep applauding or weeping at the same old thing.
could be either one of these scenarios or both. personally from your many posts it is clear that your boyfriend is a douchetackle. so why are you keeping up the show?
Yes. I believe that statistically speaking, it’s usually the girl that starts the drama for a few basic reasons.
Women are generally more sensitive emotionally. Therefore they are more prone to having their feelings hurt. Therefore more likely to bring up said feelings. Normally there’s nothing wrong with a human being talking about their feelings. If a woman told a man: “I need to talk to you about what I’m feeling – I feel good.” That’s not drama. If she says: “– You did (some hurtful/stupid/vile thing) and that made me feel bad.” That’s not drama either. That’s just letting someone know they have hurt you and is a healthy part of a relationship. BUT when she says “– You did (some miniscule thing he probably wasn’t even consciously thinking about and is obviously going to start an argument) and that made me feel bad.” That’s drama.
In a relationship men are generally less sensitive and easier to satisfy than women. Therefore they have less to complain about. Less ‘having their feelings hurt’ and less complaining invariably leads to less drama. What I’m saying is males are a bit more easygoing and don’t obsess about half the things females do.
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Yes, I would agree, women are the ones that usually create all the drama. Though, men can play at that game too.
As ruggy and dozens of folks here have already stated. Women are definitely NOT always the culprits but statistically speaking they usually are. Afterall the expression clearly has a female connotation. It’s called Drama-queen. Even when men exhibit this behavior they are still called Drama-queens. Personally in my relationships arguments don’t start until I do or say something she doesn’t like LOL. As for me It takes a lot to get me truly annoyed. I once had a female bisexual friend, who has had relationships with both genders tell me men usually came with less drama.
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Small mind, small world.
Men and women are not mentally and physiologically the same. Just because a person makes an observation about one gender and forms an opinion. Doesn’t mean he has a small mind. It doesn’t mean they are hateful or sexist. Refusing to debate these things and blindly branding males and females totally equal in every way is truly small-minded.
By labeling everything that they don't want to talk about as "drama", the boys are shirk their relationship duties. There is nothing drama about wanting to talk about feelings. The problem with drama that I have is when people drag out the same issue over a long span of time and do not come to any conclusions or changes.
If men want more sex and complain about it, women should tell them to stop being so dramatic.
By labeling everything that they don't want to talk about as "drama", the boys are shirk their relationship duties. There is nothing drama about wanting to talk about feelings.
If you continue to press the issue when it's painfully obvious your mate doesn't want to talk about it, that's considered drama.
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