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I'd be interested to know how men feel about this. I make double what my husband does. I'm not sure how he really feels about it.
Hi KylieEve,
There is a possibility he feels emasculated. That does not mean he does feel that way, but it is a real possibility. There are other contributions besides just a pay check and so long as you both recognize it, then it is much less likely to be a problem. Good cooks, money managers, handy around the house etc all add up, so does beef cake I would suppose. If you don't have a problem with it, its a good sign.
I dont know...I make more than my husband...even when he was working...but with him not working its very depressing being the breadwinner.
I really cant help but to feel this way.
The way you feel is perfectly natural. I felt the same way when I was married, and this was a factor in why we divorced. We women don't like broke men, at least most of us don't.
I dont know...I make more than my husband...even when he was working...but with him not working its very depressing being the breadwinner.
I really cant help but to feel this way.
yea people on message boards can shed light/provide perspective but really, you should be telling this to your husband. it should be okay to just express how you feel to him and try to find a solution together. you're probably both in an uncomfortable position so work through it together...
I was starting out in my career while my wife had landed a great job with a Fortune 500. At a party, I was talking to this guy, who started asking questions about our respective careers. He finally asked, "Doesn't it bother you that your wife makes more than you?" To which I replied, "No. And she also makes more than you, too." That shut him up.
There is a possibility he feels emasculated. That does not mean he does feel that way, but it is a real possibility. There are other contributions besides just a pay check and so long as you both recognize it, then it is much less likely to be a problem. Good cooks, money managers, handy around the house etc all add up, so does beef cake I would suppose. If you don't have a problem with it, its a good sign.
Thanks for this response. I was thinking the same thing. I kind of am upset that he doesn't make more money. Oh well....
I don't think it would bother me though but I cannot speak to this with any experience. I'm just speculating... I will say you have to be a very secure man to handle it.
Kudos to all those in the situation and things are going well.
It would bother me. I was in a relationship where I made more and the sob took advantage. I would prefer if he made more than I do, however, it is not a deal breaking. He needs to make enough to pull his own weight in the relationship. I am not interested in being anyones mother.
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