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If you feel that way your wife shouldn’t work at all. Really, how egotistical is that, honey its ok if you work but don’t make more money than me because Im the chief, the commander in charge and how would that look to other men if my woman made more money than I. But its ok for her to work perhaps part time (because she’s still chief cook and bottle washer, right) at some low paying grunt job to earn just enough to buy her purty things.
Sounds like you and the ppl you know (apparently, most of the women that earn more than their husbands) are very insecure and petty. I know many women including myself that make more money than their SO and have never and would not be so petty as to use it as a weapon. A relationship is not a competition, it is a partnership and if this is the way a person feels their relationship is doomed from the get go.
As stated before, I'm old-fashioned in some instances. Growing up, my father made twice as much as my mom (although my mom and dad had similar education-both parents had grad degrees) and always stressed the importance of a man being the leader of his household, which includes making the most dough. That's a view that I'll most likely hold for the rest of my life and I make no apologies for it If my wife should make more than me, obviously there's nothing I can do about that and would have to get used to it....If everything else is on point in our relationship, then something as minor as finances is simply something I'll have to deal with.
The way you feel is perfectly natural. I felt the same way when I was married, and this was a factor in why we divorced. We women don't like broke men, at least most of us don't.
I was about to say that. Women NORMALLY are not attracted to men that are from a "lower level".
Women out-earning their spouses is the new norm today. Women have far lower rates of unemployment and have been earning more degrees than men. It's not a terrible thing, but what is disturbing is that men are starting to become a permanent underclass who are chronically unemployed or stuck in low-wage jobs.
In about 20 years, men will be where women were 100 years ago.
The way you feel is perfectly natural. I felt the same way when I was married, and this was a factor in why we divorced. We women don't like broke men, at least most of us don't.
Are you sure? I used to know plenty of women who would date broke men, heck, even marry them.
As stated before, I'm old-fashioned in some instances. Growing up, my father made twice as much as my mom (although my mom and dad had similar education-both parents had grad degrees) and always stressed the importance of a man being the leader of his household, which includes making the most dough. That's a view that I'll most likely hold for the rest of my life and I make no apologies for it If my wife should make more than me, obviously there's nothing I can do about that and would have to get used to it....If everything else is on point in our relationship, then something as minor as finances is simply something I'll have to deal with.
It's possible that you might be too busy having a successful relationship, raising the kids, mowing the lawn, cooking dinners, thriving in your career...aka having a life, that score keeping with/against your partner, as a means of self worth, will become meaningless.
I was starting out in my career while my wife had landed a great job with a Fortune 500. At a party, I was talking to this guy, who started asking questions about our respective careers. He finally asked, "Doesn't it bother you that your wife makes more than you?" To which I replied, "No. And she also makes more than you, too." That shut him up.
The way you feel is perfectly natural. I felt the same way when I was married, and this was a factor in why we divorced. We women don't like broke men, at least most of us don't.
No you are right. Most women like men with money and looks. But the uglier a guy is the more money he will need to have. So yeah money wins out always with women.
I was about to say that. Women NORMALLY are not attracted to men that are from a "lower level".
And from my experience with women, (be it my wife, past relationships, or my friends), women don't care about the money that the man has, just about the man.
As long as one of the two is making decent money, that's all that matters.
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If my wife should make more than me, obviously there's nothing I can do about that and would have to get used to it....If everything else is on point in our relationship, then something as minor as finances is simply something I'll have to deal with.
