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Since it appears that people gossip in your office, try this...
Learn the darkest secret/skeleton of every person there, then when someone brings up your marriages in front of others, reply with:
"Thank you for being concerned for my welfare, sometimes its awkward to deal with these issues. How do you deal with <insert dark secret/skeleton here>."
I knew someone who had been married several times. A female coworker, who happened to be single and never married, would makes jokes about it. In response, the other person would say "At least I got someone to marry me."
Yeah, maybe they're wanting to be the next one. I have been married twice, first time for 3 years, 3 years single, and now I've been married to #2 for 37 years. I do not think I'd ever get married again if something should happen to my husband, but if I did it would not be anybody's business. I might would have me some "fun" now and then, but that'd be it.
I think on my husband's side they all live to be 100. So, there's probably never going to be an opportunity to have fun!!!! LOL!
- Sampling the honey perfected me for the right one.
- Hey, at least I eventually got it right.
- Practice makes perfect.
- It was in my chart.
- Now, now, don't get jealous because I had more opportunities than you.
- 3 is my lucky number
I don't think the comments made by the people are your office are appropriate or relevant; however, I will admit I wonder about someone who has had three or more marriages. I also wonder about someone under 25 who is divorced. I think multiple marriages CAN denote flakiness in one's personal life. (There are tons of exceptions of course like the ones duly noted by posters on this thread.) It's kind of bizarre though that someone is bringing that up at the office as if it is in any way telling about your professional life. I've met plenty of people who are quite professional who have disastrous personal lives. Who cares?
Ok . Here is something that ruffles old Spiritwalkers feathers !!!! I have been married more than once. You might say "Yeah in this day and age so what!!"
I wish that were true. It seems especially at work when someone is irritated with me or is in "gossip mode" my being married more than once suddenly comes into play. I could be tardy on a deadline issue and in addition to that being addressed the "And he's been married more than once too," is added on !! Why would that have anything to do with the issue at hand? Typically I don't dignify such ignorance. On occasion I play it off by saying "I have been married three times: One divorce ( after fifteen years/ Rookie mistakes) ,One death ( My late wife died of cancer, we were married for seven years) and this one (currently four years and by far the greatest) is a keeper. While I don't wear my "Marriage Record" on my shirt, I am not shy about my past life. Can I change the past? Why would I be, where I live and work there are no secrets....astonishing!!!! People find out things that blow my mind.
If asked I will tell the truth . Soooooooo heres what I am after. I am not always in a jovial mood to field such questions. As creative as I can be with "clever responses"I do run out of Jam. Rather than be nasty (I can do that but would rather not) can anyone male or female give me some suggestions as to what to do or say in this regard. May be venting here is all that I am doing. But then this is the place hey? Feed me my fellow thread posters.
Always grateful ,
Spiritwalker
Basically.. my response would be.. "I am not sure what that has to do with the subject at hand." I guess its their snied remark to say that you are indecisive and that is why you are late on a deadline? Set them back in their place and let them know your marriages are not really up for discussion. I wouldnt even let them know. If someone asked me if I had been married more then once.. I would ask them back.. why they were asking?
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