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My husband and I have been married for 22 years. We have 4 children. 2 older and 2 younger. We were high school sweathearts. But for the past 2 years things are not the same. We dont have the same interests. He works, I stay home with the kids. Instead of having alone time when he comes home we stay in seperate rooms watching tv. We dont have a life outside of our kids activities. Since the downfall of the economy money has been an issue too. He has become very selfish with his time and lately everything revolves around him. Sex is at most 2x a month. He is home everynight so i know he is not with anyone else. Im just ready to call it quits. When I mention this to him he just ignores me. He thinks I will never leave. I have become very stressed with the kids, money situation, and no attention from him. He is a very good father I will give him that but, he is becoming like and old man way before I am ready to become an old lady. I understand things are very difficult today and people have all kinds of problems. Im just not handling it very well.
My husband and I have been married for 22 years. We have 4 children. 2 older and 2 younger. We were high school sweathearts. But for the past 2 years things are not the same. We dont have the same interests. He works, I stay home with the kids. Instead of having alone time when he comes home we stay in seperate rooms watching tv. We dont have a life outside of our kids activities. Since the downfall of the economy money has been an issue too. He has become very selfish with his time and lately everything revolves around him. Sex is at most 2x a month. He is home everynight so i know he is not with anyone else. Im just ready to call it quits. When I mention this to him he just ignores me. He thinks I will never leave. I have become very stressed with the kids, money situation, and no attention from him. He is a very good father I will give him that but, he is becoming like and old man way before I am ready to become an old lady. I understand things are very difficult today and people have all kinds of problems. Im just not handling it very well.
Have you tried counseling? Sounds like you're just going through a rough patch, to me. I wouldn't throw in the towel on all that history, but I'm not in your shoes.
Do you REALLY think your problems will all go away if you divorce?
Seriously, think about what life will be like...
Custody.
Child support.
Extreme financial strain.
Stress, stress, stress and more stress.
Two rent/house payments.
Possible psychological trauma for your kids and/or you.
Etc...
I agree--counseling would be the route to go. It just sounds like you two aren't communicating. I'm not even in a relationship but I know good communication is key. Turn off the tv's and TALK!
we talked about counseling but never did it. So many hurtfull things have been said to each other and now its even infront of the kids. We try to stop ourselves but each day is getting worst. We play the blame game and even thought I know we shouldn't we do.
We tried talking about our problems. But it seems that he is not willing to give a little. Its like the old saying "in one ear and out the other". He feels that I will not leave. I will just stay unhappy and deal with it. I guess maybe we do need a middle person then they can hear both sides and maybe hear what we dont.
my best suggestion is to stop blaming him. he will stop. just do things with him some so if he is watching tv, go watch with him. get the kids out and plan some things to do with just the two of you
We tried talking about our problems. But it seems that he is not willing to give a little. Its like the old saying "in one ear and out the other". He feels that I will not leave. I will just stay unhappy and deal with it. I guess maybe we do need a middle person then they can hear both sides and maybe hear what we dont.
We tried talking about our problems. But it seems that he is not willing to give a little. Its like the old saying "in one ear and out the other". He feels that I will not leave. I will just stay unhappy and deal with it. I guess maybe we do need a middle person then they can hear both sides and maybe hear what we dont.
I have been begging mine to do this, and she won't. I don't think she wants to hear anything other than her side.
This is why I have given up on the marriage.
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