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They always say things like “it would have only hurt you”.
Right.
If they were sooooo worried about hurting their girls, why did they cheat AND LIE in the first place?
I am not denying that I would definitely end things if I was cheated on. Once the trust is gone, that’s it, but it takes a lot of courage for a man to be a man and confess.
How do they sleep at night? My God, my conscience would eat me up inside.
Yes I know women cheat too, but I’m asking about men and this thing they seem to see as some kind of a justification.
It's crazy how some guys always try to justify their lies and deceitfulness by saying "I didn't want you to get upset/angry/hurt." They are always SO conscious of others especially when it serves their own interest... jerks. Sometimes I wish I didn't like men....
Vanilla, The impression I get from your OP and what you have said after is that this is mostly a male phenomena. I'm saying that in my own experience women can be just as guilty of the same thing. It is exactly what my soon to be ex wife said. Basically I agree with you and have about the same opinion of it, just not that its a man thing specifically.
I have been drunk many times and... now this may come as a shock, but I managed to stay faithful.
EDIT: Sorry if I seem snappy, Onglet & co... it just works me up so much!
I'm going to guess that you are in your 20s and have never stood up and pledged to spend the rest of your life with another person. People F up, it's the human condition. A one-time slip up is typically revealed to relieve personal guilt, not because of the belief that "my spouse has the right to know that I got drunk and did something stupid in Toledo." If you are married, have built a home and family together, a one night stand isn't necessarily a deal breaker. Though most people who have lived through it don't want to discuss it, lest they be judged n
I'm going to guess that you are in your 20s and have never stood up and pledged to spend the rest of your life with another person.
Early 30’s. Nothing but long term infidelity free relationships since I was 17.
I don’t think that anyone is meant to spend their entire life with one person. That’s why I will probably never marry. It appears to be against human nature to be monogamous forever, as imcurious said.
In saying that, I don’t believe that a lack of self control should be present either.
"It is not "normal" for humans to be monogamous for 50 years or whatever."
What does one call the people who are happily married and monogamous for 50 years? Those who aren't tempted to cheat because they genuinely love their partner and continue to have good sex for 5 decades?
The fact that you skipped the meat of my post reveals your extreme immaturity.
Wow. I don’t think that was necessary, do you?
I just edited my post to add more to it... before your one. I don't know how much of what you typed it answers but yeah...
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