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He is thinking that he doesn't want a relationship. He told you that he didn't want a relationship right now. Your status is that you don't have and probably will never have a relationship with him. Move on. Let it go.
Then why does he say he is hurt by the thought of me bring with another man? Why does he get worried and full of panic when I don't reply to him after a fight? Why does he say he is thinking of me randomly? Why the 3 or 4 hour phone convos every night? He treats me like a real woman every time we are together. If he not into me, why all these things and more? ...
Why? It's obviousl! Because he wants to have his cake and eat it too!
By saying he "doesn't want a relationship", he believes he somehow absolves himself from doing all the things that a real partner in a relationship does. And yet he gets attention, a dating partner and a "kissing buddy" without having to reciprocate.
He doesn't want a relationship yet he continually sends you "thinking of you messages"? Ugh. He's a player. He is playing with your time, your emotions, your hopes and your life. Keeping you dangling. Unless that is okay with you, don't walk, RUN away from this one!
He is just a "STD".... treat him like the person that he is, enjoy him -when you are with him, laugh, joke and have fun with him, do all the things you would do with a S-omething T-o Do-.... no emotions, stop wantING something that doesn't want you... if he says your cute than you say your handsome, if he says I want more -than you say I want more too...if he says I love you, than you say I love you too....
when the night is over and you are by yourself - remember that you practiced with him and learned from him,,,, so when Mr right comes along , all your love, energy and emotions were stored up for the right one, not the practice dummy.....
Honey, you CANNOT EVER "do" anything to make someone commit to you, so get that out of your head, okay?
When a guy tells you they "don't want a relationship" right now, BELIEVE THEM or risk getting your heart broken. You are, however, free to hang around for as long as you want to see if he changes his mind over time. I wouldn't recommend doing that too long though, maybe a month or two.
And to clarify the words for you - you do have a "relationship" with him simply by knowing him at all - but you are not IN a relationship with him, see the difference?
This! He is telling you he doesn't want a relationship. It doesn't matter if he acts like you have one. It doesn't matter if he slips and calls it a "relationship". He doesn't want to be in a relationship...he just wants the benefits. Men want affection, cuddles, sex, etc....he may want all of that and still not want a relationship. He can separate the two things.
Pffft. You've never even been intimate sexually. And it's only a month 'relationship'. I don't see the big deal really, OP. Just make sure you are official when you decide to have sex with him. Like the millionaire matchmaker always say:
NO SEX BEFORE MONOGAMY!
In my case. I make it a point if we do become intimate, that we are either living together or married. In fact if I agreed to my husband that we will only meet every weekend at his house while we were dating? I doubt we are gonna be married by now. Do what YOU want in the relationship the complicated thing is.. the other person must want the same thing, ya know.
"Not ready for a relationship" means that he isn't into you enough and doesn't want to commit to you. What else do you need to know? Move on. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't really like you and just wants to play around with you and get some free sex. I can guarantee you that when he meets a girl that he really likes, he will get "in a relationship" with her so fast it will make your head spin.
Have some self-respect and dignity, do not see or call him anymore.
Why do people dig up threads that are no longer relevant?
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Ugh. He's a player. He is playing with your time, your emotions, your hopes and your life. Keeping you dangling. Unless that is okay with you, don't walk, RUN away from this one!
