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Agreed except a doctor—for mental health purposes. Sometimes emotional stress can trigger a physical reaction. For example when separatimg from my husband I had an “acute anxiety episode” that landed me in the ER. It was relevant to the situation and related. Dentist, employer, etc.? No reason.
No, not even your doctor needs to know if you are divorced, IMO.
Separating from your husband, along with a myriad of other circumstances, could cause you emotional stress and acute anxiety.....like the illness or death of a parent, sibling, pet, close friend......yet, all of those things are not routinely asked about, to be checked off on a form.
In fact, separating from a long standing live in SO could cause stress and an "acute anxiety episode", but they never ask you if you are shacked up, LOL.
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I may be called a spinster in someone's book. I don't really care. It beats being in a lifelong, loveless marriage. Being a spinster doesn't mean I'm unhappy. It just means I enjoy being a free spirited individual not having to conform what society thinks I should do.
I may be called a spinster in someone's book. I don't really care. It beats being in a lifelong, loveless marriage. Being a spinster doesn't mean I'm unhappy. It just means I enjoy being a free spirited individual not having to conform what society thinks I should do.
Amen. Constantly catching your husband cheating, not being able to trust him versus being carefree, able to sleep at night knowing you're not being cheated on....I will take being carefree over being married if I have to be stuck in a miserable marriage just so I can call myself married.
I may be called a spinster in someone's book. I don't really care. It beats being in a lifelong, loveless marriage. Being a spinster doesn't mean I'm unhappy. It just means I enjoy being a free spirited individual not having to conform what society thinks I should do.
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Amen. Constantly catching your husband cheating, not being able to trust him versus being carefree, able to sleep at night knowing you're not being cheated on....I will take being carefree over being married if I have to be stuck in a miserable marriage just so I can call myself married.
Many years ago I worked with a never married lady and this is what she used to say:
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"Anyone can get married if they lower their standards far enough."
I think she nailed it.
She was very wise, a good friend and a wonderful person to work with.
I may be called a spinster in someone's book. I don't really care. It beats being in a lifelong, loveless marriage. Being a spinster doesn't mean I'm unhappy. It just means I enjoy being a free spirited individual not having to conform what society thinks I should do.
Being married does not mean being in a loveless marriage. Marriage is supposed to enhance your life not the latter. We all conform to society like it or not, and marriage has nothing to do with that. A lot of “ free spirited “ people are happily married.
This 8-year-old thread was revived a few days ago by a new poster. The original topic of the thread is not about relationships. Also, many of the posts aren't even related to the thread topic. The thread is now closed. .
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