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I had been seeing this woman for a while, she's really great, very good looking, funny, intelligent. It was our 5th date and I invited her to my house. We had a few drinks, saw some old pics, etc. She then started to touch me and kiss me in a way I knew would eventually lead to sex. When I was sure she intended to spend the night there I panicked for obvious reasons.
I told her to stop because I needed to tell her something. Then I said I had been enjoying the dates but that we weren't really fit for each other and perhaps we should stop going out together. I then showed her the door. I could see she was really surprised and disappointed and kept saying 'What did I do wrong? Do you expect me to believe it just like this?'. I told her I'm no good for her and that there are plenty of single men around who can make her happy.
I really ruined it. But I panicked seriously, I saw very embarrassing moments coming had I let things flow.
Should I try to reconnect with her? Sorry for bringing my personal drama here, but I can't speak about this with no one, for obvious reasons as well.
Damn Jason, no wonder you're still a virgin. Do you always do this when you panick with women? I would definitely try to reconnect with her and just tell her the truth. You have nothing to lose.
Jason, why don't you call this woman and simply tell her the truth? Don't let anyone here belittle you because you're a virgin, there are FAR worse things in life... like a million of 'em.
Apologize to her on the phone and say, "I have something I need to tell you which will explain why I behaved in the way I did. But I would prefer to tell you in person." And then invite her to a lovely restaurant, have a few glasses of wine, and then tell her.
It's nothing to be ashamed about it. It's not like you're a convicted pedophile or have an STD or anything like that.
Good luck. Call her right now, don't procrastinate!
The others basically summed it up. You only have something to gain from veing truthful with her. It might be tough, but what's the worst that can happen? You end up where you are now. No worse. People are generally understanding.
Damn Jason, no wonder you're still a virgin. Do you always do this when you panick with women? I would definitely try to reconnect with her and just tell her the truth. You have nothing to lose.
Always do this? This is only the second time in my life I got a date with a woman (the other one was almost 20 years ago).
I don't know Jason...hate to say it, but I think you blew it...Should the oppurtunity ever come back up....TAKE It man....you did so well up to that point...the right amount of time went by, it wasn't your first date..you were really enjoying her company...Wow!!! ...just don't loose hope, keep working at it..love yourself and believe that you can do it!!!!
The problem is that if I tell her the truth she'll probably burst into laughter and I'm too old to let myself be humiliated like that.
Life is a gamble Jason!!!
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But I panicked seriously, I saw very embarrassing moments coming had I let things flow.
