People say you'll get a girlfriend when you're not looking (married, women)
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People say you'll get a girlfriend when you're not looking
I call that the swamp theory of relationships. If you go wading in the swamp, you may "get" leeches, whether you want them or not (check out the old movie "African Queen"), and you may not even notice! Check yourself daily to be sure some woman hasn't latched on, and avoid their habitats unless you want one.
"An attractive woman will get a boyfriend when she's not looking."
Said attractive women say the original line because they assume it applies to everybody (man, woman, fat, skinny, cute, ugly) and it very clearly does not.
This is based on experience of course.
This is 155,000% accurate. It's like asking Bobby Fischer how to be good at chess and him saying, "I dunno. Just follow your instincts and move the pieces where you think they should go and you'll win."
I'm sure some guys would date her just for bragging rights.
There are guys that would date any attractive woman. But women tend to have higher standards and they won't date a guy just because he's attractive. He has to do more to impress women. Hell, sometimes they date a guy that's not attractive if he impresses them in other ways.
I think this is what people say to their friends when they friends are overly desperate. I know I've said it to my friends in those situations. And they have usually found someone when they stop being so obviously desperate. However, my girlfriends are attractive... so take that for what it's worth.
I also don't think it was meant to be so literal. Obviously, not every single person is going to find themselves in a relationship once they stop looking. But I think there is such a thing as trying too hard. Sometimes, once you stop trying so hard, love has a way of finding you.
I used to be so preoccupied with getting a girlfriend. But then I realized I can't just "get a girlfriend." A girlfriend has to come naturally. And frankly, I'm content without a girlfriend.
It bothers me when people tell me to "get a girlfriend" as if getting a girlfriend is some easy task.
I think some women might use the saying on my OP so men will stop chasing after them.
Hell, sometimes they date a guy that's not attractive if he impresses them in other ways.
Then that guy is attractive to them. Attractiveness is not all bound up in looks to women like it is for men. Many women won't care what a guy looks like (so long as he's not butt ugly) if he has swagger.
It was true for me and my friend who became the boyfriend. We were just going to split a large rental and ended up falling for each other. He used to annoy the crap out of me in his youth but I knew he was responsible and he is not so hyper anymore. It all has been working out well.
I felt like when seeking people...it was like having the munchies and nothing hit the spot. To me it feels better when life paths cross and things work out naturally because they just fit.
Sappy but cute: As we were combining our kitchen stuff, he had a lidless skillet, and I had skilletless lid. They fit together perfectly and it made me think of that saying I have seen posted on here: "there is a lid for every pot"
I used to be so preoccupied with getting a girlfriend. But then I realized I can't just "get a girlfriend." A girlfriend has to come naturally. And frankly, I'm content without a girlfriend.
So why the heck have you decided to create yet another inane thread on a subject in which you have no interest whatsoever?
I used to be so preoccupied with getting a girlfriend. But then I realized I can't just "get a girlfriend." A girlfriend has to come naturally. And frankly, I'm content without a girlfriend.
It bothers me when people tell me to "get a girlfriend" as if getting a girlfriend is some easy task.
I think some women might use the saying on my OP so men will stop chasing after them.
Yeah I know! Not all people are lucky in the dating department so we can't just get a girlfriend/boyfriend whenever we want.
Then that guy is attractive to them. Attractiveness is not all bound up in looks to women like it is for men. Many women won't care what a guy looks like (so long as he's not butt ugly) if he has swagger.
You might be onto something. I hear women talk about hot guys, but a lot of times they don't want to date said hot guys.
Whereas if a man talks about hot girls, that typically means he wants them.
So why the heck have you decided to create yet another inane thread on a subject in which you have no interest whatsoever?
I have an interest in this subject. Like I said on my OP, I'd be open to the idea of dating if the right girl showed interest in me.
And I was just wondering if the saying on my OP is true, because it doesn't appear to be true based on my experience.
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