People say you'll get a girlfriend when you're not looking

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Originally Posted by Professor Griff

The saying is true. Do you search for friends and associates? Do you seek out enemies? Probably not, because these relationships typically result from natural interactions. Why would having a more intimate ("girlfriend") relationship occur any differently? Sure, you can jog the process along by actively looking for a relationship, but these, like most other relationships, mostly form out of natural interactions.

If you're not being social with people in general, it is much less likely to happen. Judging from your post you're not asking the question as it relates to you, but I hate when "lonely" people ask this question, as if having an intimate partner is the Holy grail of life. Just live life, enjoy the human experience and interacting with people, and things will happen from there.

In a way, I searched for friends at the beginning of college. I go to a college with no one from my high school, so I knew no one at first. I guess the same could be said about a girlfriend...I wanted a girlfriend at the beginning of college, but I also realized a girlfriend is something that has to come naturally. However, I thought getting a girlfriend would be easier in college.

Now I want a girlfriend, but it's not the end of the world if I stay single.

[Coolhand68]

You can also step on a rusty nail when you aren't looking. What people mean when they say this is when you aren't actively pursuing someone, you don't come off as though you are trying too hard. If you are trying too hard, they can smell it on you. The essence of the saying boils down to recognizing opportunities as they present themselves and seizing those opportunities in your day to day travels.