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It doesn't really matter to me what occupation they hold, as long as they're an active part of the community, holding a full time job and being responsible. I certainly wouldn't want to get involved with a slacker living off tax payer funds.
On the other hand, because of my past career it made sense for me to be involved with someone in the same line of work. It's high stress, high demand, and it's what I grew up with since my father was in the same field. So it was just natural for me to be with someone in that line of work. I dated guys with 'boring' jobs (accountant, teacher, etc) but it never worked out. It's hard when you go home and you're not allowed to talk to your SO about your day for legal reasons. Wound up marrying a co-worker and it was the best thing I ever did.
See, I would shy away from that. My wife worked for me at my business for several years. There were times when it felt like I never left the office.
I find ambition and drive attractive. But mostly, I'm attracted to people who are positive, enthusistic, and vital.
When I was a young adult I dated a writer who was working as a dishwasher to make ends meet. Because he had all of the above-mentioned qualities, I wasn't surprised when his writing career took off.
But if you are a middle-aged dishwasher, with no aspirations for improving your life, I would presume you are lacking in one or more of of the above-mentioned traits.
I find ambition and drive attractive. But mostly, I'm attracted to people who are positive, enthusistic, and vital.
When I was a young adult I dated a writer who was working as a dishwasher to make ends meet. Because he had all of the above-mentioned qualities, I wasn't surprised when his writing career took off.
But if you are a middle-aged dishwasher, with no aspirations for improving your life, I would presume you are lacking in one or more of of the above-mentioned traits.
Yeah. This should be the way the world works. Having a direction in life should be what matters, not what's in your bank account. I've seen some great guys who didn't make big bucks and I've seen some rudderless trust fund babies. Guess which ones make the best life partners?
We're not all supposed to be the same and not everyone makes a pile of money. I used to have a pile of money and a man who didn't love me. Today I have a man who loves me very much and I'm poor. Honestly, I would much prefer to have a pile of money AND a man who loves me. Rich is always better than poor!
My expectations are reasonable. I want a man who supports himself and at least occasionally has enough left over for something special.
I've always wondered how consultants make so much money compared too the usual 8-10 hour gig, get paid to give advice... high clientelle? Big firm with many clients? Sounds exciting!
When I was in consulting (IT and later management), the hours were farrrrrrr more than the usual 8-10 hour gig. A good week was 60 hours. I left it because there was no amount of money worth that to me.
I percieve that many of the "money isn't everything" statements as coming from people in denial or people who want to rationalize their bad choices! I'm not talking about being filthy rich and I'm not talking about doing the best you can types. I'm talking lazy leaches that can't or won't provide for their own kids! I would be a fat man if I got a doughnut for every woman that I have known that went from one broke loser to the next. Just look at what is written on almost every dating site: "Looking for man, must have a Job, Car, his own house, not living with mom and dad like my Ex boyfriend". And you hear this from 40 year old woman too, it not just 20 year olds!!!Yikes. Are their just a bunch of woman out their that are bad pickers??
I will admit that I care. Only the best for me! And I guarantee that the guy will get only the best from me as well. It's called having high standards.
In addition to what he does for a living, I also care about his health, looks, motivation, personality, and emotional maturity. And again, my demands come with a reciprocation clause. So don't make it into a man vs. woman type thing.
I think it matters. If you're with a police officer, soldier, fireman, or someone else who has a job along those lines, you're going to be not only dating the man, but also dealing with whatever stress they have from their job.
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. Are their just a bunch of woman out their that are bad pickers??
