he pushed me aside when applying for a card? (women, call, advice)
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A major overreaction. Just because you wouldn't push him out of the way when filling the credit card application, doesn't mean he can't. People have different expectations of personal privacy and yours and his don't match. Also, depending on how long you had a relationship with him, he might simply not trust you yet.
It doesn't matter what his reason was for not wanting you around him when filling out the application. He was absolutely rude for physically pushing you away.
It doesn't matter what his reason was for not wanting you around him when filling out the application. He was absolutely rude for physically pushing you away.
Seriously! What does it take? a 2x4 upside the head to make the OP realize that "something just aint kosher?"
I agree with you guys, I wouldn't want someone to look over my shoulder either. But that wasn't what I was doing. I was standing near him at the counter. There was several inches between else. I really don't think I was being nosy and I wasn't looking for any private information. I was just standing there.
But my main issue isn't telling me to go do something else. I have a bigger problem with that he pushed me away. While it wasn't a hard push, I didn't think that was necessary at all.
We've been dating for several months now and we are exclusive. We haven't talked about it, but I'm not seeing anyone else and either is he.
Without being there, I can't say whether a "gentle push" (as you described it in your OP, which I pictured as a little, "Go on, shoo" thing) would have been a big deal to me. My husband and I horseplay a lot, and physical contact does not bother me. Other people are calling it "shoving" or speculating that the beatings are going to start any day now , but if this is something that bugs you, you have a right to that.
You might tell him, "Hey, I didn't mean to look like I was snooping on your privacy the other day, but don't push me like that again, OK?"
Without being there, I can't say whether a "gentle push" (as you described it in your OP, which I pictured as a little, "Go on, shoo" thing) would have been a big deal to me. My husband and I horseplay a lot, and physical contact does not bother me. Other people are calling it "shoving" or speculating that the beatings are going to start any day now , but if this is something that bugs you, you have a right to that.
You might tell him, "Hey, I didn't mean to look like I was snooping on your privacy the other day, but don't push me like that again, OK?"
Yep! Never let these things fester OP. if you're going to be in a relationship with someone, you have to keep things out there, instead of letting them build.
Many of the responses you've received here are plausible explanations for his action. It could have been a whole lot more embarrassing, right? He could have looked at you, raised his eyebrows and said loudly, "Do you MIND?" Let him know it hurt and move on. If it becomes a habit...move ON....far away!
Without being there, I can't say whether a "gentle push" (as you described it in your OP, which I pictured as a little, "Go on, shoo" thing) would have been a big deal to me. My husband and I horseplay a lot, and physical contact does not bother me. Other people are calling it "shoving" or speculating that the beatings are going to start any day now , but if this is something that bugs you, you have a right to that.
You might tell him, "Hey, I didn't mean to look like I was snooping on your privacy the other day, but don't push me like that again, OK?"
Yeah, I know it's hard to judge the situation without being there, but I think most people can tell the difference between a playful pushing and real pushing and it doesn't sound like it was the former...
I know I'm bringing stuff in from some of your other threads....but.... Isn't this they guy who in Feb, you'd been dating for a month....the one who was getting "too attached to quickly"? Has he opened up to you about his past since your earlier threads?...Is he still asking you to pay for some of your dates?.....Now he's pushing you away to keep you from seeing information he's putting on a credit card?
Maybe his "scientific" mind has anazlyed the possibility of identity theft...or this guy has simply got some stuff worth hiding. I'll tell ya, he'd have my "LOOK OUT" radar working overtime, and I'd be doing a whole lot more digging before I let myself get much closer to this guy. Just sayin'....
Yeah I agree with the guy. Unless you're married to him, he'll probably be private about it.
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or speculating that the beatings are going to start any day now 
Never let these things fester OP. if you're going to be in a relationship with someone, you have to keep things out there, instead of letting them build. 
